See, my parents (of course!) think that it is currently "the in thing" to announce that you are gay. This could be because a lot of my guy friends are coming out, and a lot of my girl friends are questioning, and a lot of my friends in general have friends who are confused, experimenting, coming to grips, etc... The result is that they doubt anyone who is gay, and I think that if I talk to them about my own sexuality, they will think that it's just a phase, or I'm trying to fit in, or something like that. The worst part is that I'm not even entirely sure myself. Yes, I am a lesbian... now. But that doesn't mean that at some point in my future I won't fall in love with a man. And my parents think that any woman who did love women and now loves men was faking it for popularity purposes before. Which makes me afraid that if I talk to them (which I really need to do because being in the closet is soffocating me) they won't take me seriously and will wave it off as a phase that I'll get over when I go to college and see that my school is not an accurate representation of the dating pool.
So I have a question or two for you.
1. Do you think that it is currently popular to be gay, and that a lot of people are just saying that they are for that reason?
2. Do you think (and this is taking into consideration that you don't know me or my parents) that there is a way to convince them that my feelings are genuine and/or make them take me seriously?
This is really the only thing barring my way at this point, and I hope to have this over and done with by the end of the week. (Oh please, oh please!) So I really appreciate any future comments and/or suggestions you may have on this matter.
(And if I posted this message twice only worded differently, I'm sorry. I was having password problems)
Right now, I think the reason that it seems like so many people you know are coming out is because everyone is still going through adolescence and still trying figuring out who they are, and that includes sexuality.
For my friends and I, once a couple of people came out, a few more did and I think it's because we acted as a support group to each other.
As for your parents, you could try talking to them and telling them that it isn't a popularity thing. No one wakes up in the morning and says "Gee, I think I'm going to gay since it's the popular thing to do." In my experience, it's been quite the opposite. And if they still think it's a popularity thing, you could just give them some time and sooner or later, they'll come around.
I hope a helped a little bit. Good luck
If people are 'coming out' for attention, there is definately something wrong. It's stupid and not to mention unfair on people who are genuinely gay or questioning. Just stick with your beliefs - that's all you can do. With time they will realise that you weren't doing it for popularity, that's the way you are. *Badger*
p.s Where I come from it is 99% of the time it's considered very uncool to be gay or different in a major way.
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