Lately, I've been considering trying to get counseling. I get depressed every now and then, but this time, it's milder, but has been lasting much longer. I'm not exactly sure what's causing it, but I think it's related to a lot of emotional hurt in my past brought up by instances now. I can't connect socially (I've been at my university for two years, and still haven't made any friends), and when I talked to my older brother about it, he thought I needed therapy. And there's things that I haven't told anyone- I was sexually and emotionally abused from when I was 17-19. I never really stopped to heal from it, I just ignored what happened and moved on. I don't know if that is still affecting me.
I thought about going to the counseling center at my university when they were having special sessions for students with stress problems, but I counted on one class ending early, and it didn't because some students used far too much time for their presentations. But I think it's just as well that I didn't go because my problems go beyond stress.
I know that my older brother talked to my mum about therapy for me when he called some weeks ago because he said he would, but she hasn't said anything to me about it. I think my parents like to believe that everything is okay. Whenever I try to bring up problems I'm having, they act like those problems are normal.
Has anyone else been at a similar point?
Would you encourage me to try the counseling services at my university? Should I tell my parents about it if I do?
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I think if you feel you'd benefit from counselling, the university service could be a great place to start. It does sound like you've been dealing with an awful lot of things on your own, including sexual and emotional abuse. If you ignored what happened, it likely could be still affecting you. You deserve support with this! And you're right that these problems aren't normal and do go beyond stress. I'm sorry that you're parents are acting like that. It could also be because they aren't aware of the full extent of it. You may decide to attend counselling initially without telling your parents about it. It depends how much you trust them to understand. I hope this goes well for you .
(I've attended counselling at university before for depression. I found it really useful in helping me to come out of my shell and continue on with study)
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