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ghf
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IF MY GIRLFRIEND WANTED SEX AND SAID THAT SHE WOULD LEAVE IF I DID NOT SLEEP WITH HER I HAVE NOT GOT GIRLFRIEND YET BUT I AM WORRIED THAT THIS MIGHT COME PS I AM NOT READY FOR SEX YET
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orca
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Is this the same girl you mentioned here? If so, I'm a bit confused how the topic of sex has already come up and how you have established a relationship when you two haven't gone out yet.

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http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/19/t/000418/p/1.html#000002

I think Joey answered your question already.

But let me reiterate:

Any loving partner will not force you to have sex. Nor do you need to be worrying about this, because you don't have a potential sex partner to force you into it.

If someone DOES say "have sex with me or I'm leaving you" ... Let them leave. They're not a healthy partner anyway.

[ 08-24-2010, 12:41 PM: Message edited by: Devanie ]

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ghf
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I AM JUST CONFUSED ABOUT GETTING A GIRLFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN LISTENING TO SOME OF MY FRIENDS SAYING THAT WHEN YOU GRT A GIRLFRIEND SHE WILL WANT TO HAVE SEX AND I AM NOT EMOTIONALY READY FOR THAT YET I NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND BEFORE AND THE GUYS SAY THEY HAVE HAD SEX WITH THERE GIRLFRIENDS A LOT OF TIMES BEFORE
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(Can you please stop typing in all capital letters, please? It's hard on the eyes and is the internet equivalent of shouting. Thanks.)

As others have said, it's a bit early to be thinking about sex when you don't have a partner yet. If and when you are in a situation with someone where sex is a possibility and you don't feel ready for it yet, that's all you need to say. A respectful partner will accept that and won't pressure you.

Also? It really doesn't matter what other people have or have not done; when it comes to sex all you need to worry about is what you feel ready for.

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