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JuiceM
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I need to talk to someone about when I was raped a few weeks ago. Up to now I haven't told anyone because I couldn't find the words. It's hard enough just typing it right now. I want to tell my boss at work because I know I can trust her and she'll support me but the problem I have is: I work for the police and she is a Sergeant. Because of the nature of her work, legally, can she keep this to herself or does she have to tell someone? I don't want to report it to the police. I just need to talk to someone and there's no one else I feel I could open up to face to face.
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Heather
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What you're asking about is basically interdepartmental policy, which I'm afraid none of us will be able to know.

What I'd suggest doing is looking at any handbooks you may have as an employee. Or, you could ask someone in human resources what the policy is on personal disclosures to co-workers is?

You aren't describing a crime YOU committed, but one you were a victim of, so I'd not expect she had any legal obligation to report, but since it's clearly important to you it not be reported, I'd not bank on my guess, there.

[ 09-24-2010, 06:15 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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JuiceM
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Thank you for your advice Heather. I will definitely take some time to look through the policies.
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Heather
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Of course. And if you want to talk about it here, we're also glad to listen.

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JuiceM
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Thanks. I may do in the future. For now I need to take some responsibility for my emotions and talk face to face with someone. But talking here seems like a productive way of letting things out too so I'm sure you'll see me in the future.
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