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superxbats
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Any sex addicts out there?Does anyone else feel sex is a compulsion,or gets a high out of having sex?Does normal sex seem boring, and are u constantly seeking out more bold and exotic sexual situations? There are days when all I think about is sex.Its horrible, I need support.
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Heather
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Hey superbats: check out my answer to your other question on this here: http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/9/t/000295.html#000006

To be clear, sex can often make people feel high: after all, it elevates the heart, makes circulation flow, and also causes chemical changes in the body, including (with orgasm and arousal) endorphins, a hormone we also can experience with say, a serious workout, that is known as the "feel-good" hormone of the human body.

Too, what's "normal sex?" I'm not being silly, it's an earest question. What one person finds or considers normal may not be what another person does, and what's considered abnormal or "deviant" is often strongly influenced by bias. For instance, through a lot of history and still by some people today, sex between those of the same gender is considered "abnormal." See what I mean?

In that same vein, people wanting to be sexually adventurous or to experiment isn't necessarily unhealthy. Taking huge health risks in doing so, or doing things -- or things with given people -- which are emotionally dangerous for a given person or nonconsensual? That kind of stuff is a different story.

Lastly, most people will have times in their lives when all they think about it sex or sex is of particular, pervasive interest. And for people in their teens and early twenties, some of that is simply chemical, and about the phase of development you're in.

So, why is it you are considering yourself a sex addict? Do you feel like your sexual behavior has been unhealthy for you? if so, what areas of those choices are you finding problematic?

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HeyLife
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A few years back I had a sort of crotch-fixation, and I hated it. When I was watching a performance, or seeing people across the room, my eyes went to their crotches by habit. I couldn't break it and I hated it. Not sure why I can see the rest of them now, but the point is it was temporary. Like Heather said, it was just a point in life.
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just_curious 411
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I recently started masturbating, and I haven't really been able to stop since. I don't know if I would consider myself a "sex addict," but I can relate to what you're saying. On one hand, I'm kind of ashamed of doing this (it just seems dirty and wrong), but then again, it's also a very pleasurable experience. Maybe it's just me, but I've often observed that sexuality can be extremely enticing, yet very repulsive at the same time.
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