my best friend recently has started seeing this boy and they are now going out! I know i shouldnt be but im really jealous of her i dont fancy her boyfriend though. I text her last week and she never text back, her boyfriend spoke to me on msn and said how she texts him off her sisters phone. I've decided not to speak to her till she makes the first effort, am i being really jealous and over the top? Please write bk x
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It's not a good idea to stop talking to her, that won't help anything. But at the same time, you can't always be the one who goes to her.
Try finding a time when you can really talk to her, not over any sort of IM, tell her it is very important, and explain to her how you feel. It needs to be okay with you that she has a boyfriend, as long as he doesn't treat her badly and she's happy, but that doesn't mean you're just going to stand by if she ignores you and doesn't talk to you and stops hanging out with you to be with him. That's not friendship.
If talking to her doesn't work, it may be time to let her go and find new friends.
I think this is a very usual problem. Your friend is going out with someone and suddenly she hasn't as much time for you as before. I've experienced this and it wasn't fun at all, I said to myself if I get a boyfriend I wouldn't do this to my friends. But unfortunately, I admit that I did. But I wasn't really aware of that then, it just happened that I met my friends more rarely and it wasn't because I didn't like to hang out with them anymore, I was just in love and so busy with this that I didn't have much time left for my friends. So, don't be angry with your friend, I'm sure she still likes to be with you and soon she will realize how much you mean to her as her friend, just have patience. Because you can't only be with your boyfriend all the time, you really need your friends too!
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