Just barely. Is English your native language? Have you heard of spelling, grammar and punctuation?
If I understand you correctly, this boy is bad news to be avoided at all costs. When he says
quote:it sounds like he is trying to shift the blame for his bad behavior. This is a sign of future abusive behavior.
and it made me sound like its all bout me
Gumdrop Girl, one of our other moderators has put together a checklist to see if you are in an abusive relationship:
I think is *SO* important that it deserves its own short thread for people to look over and evaluate whether they may be in an abusive relationship.
The following information was given to me by a classmate of mine who works extensively with battered women, but it all applies to both men and women.
Read ths following and if you check two or more on this list, you are in a relationship that is not safe for you.
 My partner is very jealous, gets jealous easily
 My partner follows me around, checks up on me a lot
 My partner tries to control how I dress or who I spend time with (friends, family, coworkers)
 My partner yells, calls me names, puts me down
 I hide things that I think would upset or anger my partner (phone numbers, letters, photos)
 I am afraid to say no to sex
 My partner threatens me, or has threatened me
My partner hits, throws or breaks things when angry
 I am fraid to disagree with my partner
 My partner has pushed, slapped, punched or otherwise hurt me
I feel like my partner's anger is my fault
And some links to check out if you think this applies to you and you need more help:
Break the Cycle - Empowering Youth to End Domestic Violence http://www.break-the-cycle.org/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence http://www.webmerchant.com/ncadv
And if you are in the Los Angeles Area, Sojourn is an organization that offers services to battered women and their kids. Give them a call at (310)264.6644
I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.
[This message has been edited by Bobolink (edited 04-15-2005).]