Im very new to this site... but I read some of the other topics and I really think that this site helps alot of people. I am 17 and I was raped over the summer by a 23 year old. not a day goes by when I dont wonder when he is going to come around a corner when I'm all alone and try it again. it has ruined my life. Im pressing charges, but not much has been done so far. my family life is suffering, and my love life even worse. I dont know what to do. I feel like the world caves in more and more each day. I was just wondering if anyone has been through the same thing, or has any advice on anything, especially my boyfriend, we have been together for almost a year and I dont want to throw our relationship away... thank you, Sierra
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There are a few rape survivors here. We also have a few threads i can point you in the direction of, where you can read about other peoples experiences.
Are you in any sort of counseling right now? Counseling isn't for everyone, but some people swear by it. And counseling comes in different varieties too ... Appointments can be made for you and your family or you and your boyfriend to sit down and discuss your concerns together.
Have you looked for support groups in your area? A doctors office or health unit would be a good place to start. Many people also find this very useful.
Hello, I am also new to this site but I read your story and I can relate. I am younger than you but I have also been in a similar situation. I dated a boy for over a year and a half. He was my first boyfriend and I was dumb. He emotionally, verbally, physically and sexually abused me for a long time. No body noticed. I ended the relationship about 4 months ago and got a restraining order on him. I still see him everyday because he still attends my high school, it kills me. Not knowing if I am REALLY safe.
I was raped, repeatedly. I know all about flashbacks, nightmares, and triggers such as smells making me cry when nobody knows why. Child Protective Services refused to investigate because they thought it wasn't "threatening enough". Even the judge who tried my restraining order acted as though he wasn't a threat. My family life is gone, my parents feel guilty for not noticing but pull away from me because they realize they know nothing about me. My love life, to the outsider, would look flourishing but I cannot trust nor gain a real emotional attachment to anyone. I have gotten help and on-line resources play a big part in that. Just know that all these things that you are feeling are natural and that you WERE a victim, but now you are a survivor.
Thanks for sharing your stories, I hope things start to look up for you. ((hugs))
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