I'm a very quiet and self-conscious person, and I really have no idea what to do about it. I'm always worried that people are thinking I'm ugly, fat, stupid, badly-dressed, etc. I don't really talk to people much, except my family and my best friend. I wish I could do something about it, but I don't know... I always feel like a big loser. Does anyone have any tips for getting over this? I would like to be more self-confident when school starts, so that way I can try to make some new friends this year. Well, anyway, thanks for reading this.
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CaramelMiss, I used to be a lot like you too. Here's what happened to me:
I was talking to my friend about how I was feeling down. She asked why, and I told her that it was because I felt like people thought I was stupid and ugly. She told me, "Lauren, people may judge you for what's on the outside, but they judge everyone else, too! Show them what's on the inside. And if they don't like that either, then too bad for them. There are a lot of people out there who you'll get along with and who will like you for you. You just have to find them."
So slowly, over time I got bolder and more confident about who I am and what I do. I like the clothes I wear, and I know some other people may not like them but oh well! Because I know there are others out there who DO. Don't change yourself for anyone, honey. Because there are a lot of people out there who like you for what you do, who you are, how you dress, and your personality. Be confident of yourself and don't be afraid to show it to others. Talk to people; introduce yourself; tell people your thoughts. And don't feel bad if someone argues with you or doesn't appear to like you, because there's bound to be someone in the room who thinks your great! Sometimes people just don't voice their opinions. And that's a shame, because the world is missing out on a lot.
Take care... I hope I helped. Have a good year in school
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