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celery
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I used to cut myself on my arms, and on my thighs.
I haven't done it in months, but I obviously still have scars. No one really knows about the ones on my legs, except for my best friend who knows all about my cutting, but the one on my arm is the one that everyone kind of knows about. The scars are fading since I put this moisturizing Vitamin E + Aloe Vera Baby Oil on, but the scars are still noticable, and people ask about it sometimes.

My problem is, when people ask me what happened, I never know what to say! I just freeze up and say "uh, it happened a long time ago" or "uhh nothing!", so my question is what should I say to people when they ask?
And these aren't really my friends asking, just aquaintances at school.

Also, if I put on the moisturizing every day, how long do you think it will take for the scars to almost completely fade?

Thanks a bunch!


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Bhsshelly
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I DON'T KNOW MUCH ABOUT SCARING OR DOING THINGS LIKE CUTTING MYSELF BUT I DO KNOW HOW TO GET RID OF PEOPLE. WHEN THEY ASK YOU WHAT HAPPENT JUST MAKE UP SOME STORY ABOUT HOW YOU WERE HANGING OUT WITH ELVIS AND HE SAID MIND YOUR BUSINESS
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nifty
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some scars fade quickly - others take a long time. i had (have) a couple of big scars on my face - they took about 2 years to fade - i recently had surgery on them and the nurses said it would take about that long again. don't worry about them too much. the important thing is u r not hurting you anymore right? people ask me what happened to me alot of the time -i had an argument with a window, by the way! (heh - duuh )- i wouldnt mind but it's people i just don't know! off the street, you know? these people have no manners. its them that have the problem. dont worry about it.
why don't you try some make up? foundation or some thing? i dont know how it works for scars on the arm, ask one of thouse make-over people that are always standing about in debenhams and places (it works for the face ) vit-E is always good though they tell you that at hospital but it's really expensive huh?
hope that helps

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youcancallmepunk
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Ever tried cocoa butter? It's often used by pregnant women to help prevent stretch marks, so maybe it could help with scarring.

I use Tone, body wash and soap, which is cocoa butter based, and I don't know if it's timeor that, but my scars have faded, but not gone (still a very pale white).

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Dark_Wolf
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I understand that you don't know what to say when someone asks what the mark is. It's not like you can look up at them with big eyes and declare "I did it when I was mutilating myself, aren't I clever?"
Cos no-one feels proud of what they have done to themselves and all kinds of rumours fly from a statement like that. My advice to you is: If you know the person well enough to trust them to not make it into a big deal, then quietly tell them that you did it to yourself and that it's a difficult subject. If you don't, however, trust them not to start rumour or turn it into a big deal, then don't tell them anything. It could cause problems. Just say it's nothing.
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