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ningrrl
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I have a problem.. and I was wondering if anyone else was similar to this.

I am a really sensitive person.
Sometimes I will think of something, and it will bother me and nag at my mind. And I will worry about it. You always feel so anxious like you need to tell someone.
Just different, certain things bother you and make you worry about stuff.

All that stems back from parts of my childhood..(Long story.)
Anyone else like this?

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ningrrl
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I shall also add that sometimes it makes me so frustrated and I cry.
I've started taking St. John's Wort to maybe help with this.
For a while, this worrying and such went away.. This past summer it came back. I'm trying my hardest to think of other things and let go of my past.
It was kinda hard for me to post this, because I deny it so much and try to push it away. Even though I've been like this since I was a kid, Mom says she went through a stage like this and she thinks I'll grow out of it. I think I eventually will too.
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*HUGS!* I'm sorry your worrying has affected you so negatively . I worry sometimes, but it doesn't get to the point where I get frustrated and cry. I'm glad you're taking St. John's Wart to help you. My dad's on that, too.

Your mom could be right, it may just be a phase, but you never know. Have you talked with your doctor about it? Maybe he'll have some tips to help you. And maybe if the problem comes from your childhood a counselor could help you work through that and eventually get over it. That's what they're there for!

I really wish you the best of luck, and keep me updated on how things go, okay? I'll be thinking about ya. Take care.

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If you're worrying about something then sometimes telling somebody about it works, if not another person than just writing it down can help. Get it out of your mind because worry tends to get magnified in the mind. Good luck with that
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ningrrl
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The stuff I mainly worried about in childhood was religion and hell and stuff like that, and there was other parts to it, such as I felt like I had to tell my mom everything for some odd reason. It was so frustrating. I did go to different counselors for periods of time. It seemed to go away, but now I seem to worry about stuff again. It seemed to come back when I told my boyfriend about my past. It's weird and kinda hard to explain. I think it is a phase, I just need to get out and enjoy life.

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dear gosh yes

my sister is very sensitive. she's 14 and if you say anything to her it seems like she runs off and cries. she's changing schools, getting her period reguarly, and it has kinda taken a toll on her.
are you very stressed out? that could be a major part of it.
if not, dont owrry, growing up is very very hard on us.


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I know that, for me at least, sometimes I just have to force myself to not worry. I obsess over things -- good things, bad things, neutral-but-interesting things -- and think about them again and again and again. It's just the way I am, and sometimes when one of those things I'm constantly thinking about is scary, I just have to force myself to stop thinking about it. This may not apply to any of you, though, and if it doesn't, I'd advise talking to someone who'll reassure you. If worrying is really affecting your life badly, you might want to make that someone a counselor. Good luck either way, though.
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OK, ningrrl, what you have said sounds a lot like Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). It's an anxiety disorder that causes a person to obsess over a certain worry, which gets blown out of proportion, and sometimes they feel compelled to do certain things (for instance, if you worry about hell, you may pray to God to take you to heaven). I've had OCD and anxiety problems since i was little. For more info, go here: www.ocfoundation.org or try www.adaa.org.

Hope I helped!!!

Take care, sweetie!!!!

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Whooooa ... Only in dreams, we can't diagnose here. I know you're just trying to help, but a lot of the time telling people they have something that they don't only adds to the worry. At least w/ hypochondriacs like me ... LOL

Anywho, yes, ningirl, you need to talk to someone. Talk about your fears and what makes you so unhappy, and maybe throw in what OID said about OCD (that looks kinda funny...) and see what they think. A lot of the time talking will do the trick tho. Keeping things bottled up is no fun.


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LOL, sorry. I didn't mean to diagnose, but I guess I went overboard. I'm a little bit of a hypochndriac myself, so I know what you mean.

Anyway, ningrrl, you should definitely talk to someone about it. Like Lilbluesmurf said, it's not good to keep it bottled up. Talk it over with someone.

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Nin, I used to be really, really sensitive, and still am fairly so, but I figure it just helps me to exist as a more humane person. BTW, I really do feel the need to mention that St John's wort can make the Pill inneffective.
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yeah i'm also really senstive, and worry a lot, i worry about death all the time, i worry so much that i start to cry because i think the world is going to end sometimes. I cry outa frustration too. I'm also gullable too, so don't worry so much, get help if you can. If thats not the way you want to go, just make sure theres someone there for you, that what gets me out of ruts, someone who i really care about.
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I am also extremely sensitive. Even at 18 years old, I find myself tearing up over lots of things. Especially the slightest things - like right now, I tear up at the least bit of a mention of me going to college in the fall, and especially about getting everything organized. I find that I'm highly disciplined when it comes to most things, especially schoolwork, and it leads me to be inflexible at times. I also worry about things I have no control over - like who my roomate will be, or even things I do have control over - which job to work at this summer. When that happens and I start to stress out, I go into a room where I can sit quietly for a few minutes and read a magazine, watch tv, or even check my e-mail. I can compose myself fairly quickly and I learned that even though it's so, so hard to do, I HAVE to take things one step and one day at a time. Every day, deal with one stressful project or thought, and give yourself a reward - a favorite snack, a new lipstick, a cool new outfit, a CD - when you get through each tough task. It helps me make things easier. Also, it helps me alot to think that by this time tomorrow, I'll have dealt with it already.
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ningrrl
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As I said, I had gone to a counselor for a while. Mom said they had diagnosed me with a little bit of OCD.. I don't really think that's it because it has gone away, come back, blah blah blah.. Like other people have posted here, I worry about stuff. I find my situation quite similar to Lynne's. Sometimes we should just relax. :P
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quote:
Originally posted by ningrrl:
As I said, I had gone to a counselor for a while. Mom said they had diagnosed me with a little bit of OCD.. I don't really think that's it because it has gone away, come back, blah blah blah.. Like other people have posted here, I worry about stuff. I find my situation quite similar to Lynne's. Sometimes we should just relax. :P

Well, the thing about (OCD and) worries is that they can go away and come back. I've been a worrier all my life, and sometimes there will be months where all I do is worry, and then I'll be fine for a few months.

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I worry all the time too. Not about religion, but just about everything else. Money, relationships, even just having to call and order a pizza. I'm not sure I can give you any advice, but you certainly have my sympathy.
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I understand what you are saying, OID. Mom told me today that they didn't diagnose me with that. But you know, a lot of people I know are big worry warts anyway. Mom says I am oversensitive, and if I keep worrying about it, then I'd give myself OCD, haha. When I think about it, worrying doesn't really affect me if I just stand back and look at the bigger picture. I also looked at those OCD websites, and they just don't really pertain to me I don't think.

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You know, I think we should start a worry-warts club. What do ya think? We can all worry together! LOL.

But seriously: I can understand times of deep worry... It usually doesn't get to the point where I lose control, but it can affect me very negatively. I, too, worry about death and dying, though as I am getting older my worries of that are easing up. I'm learning more about life and learning to accept the realities of it. And I think of how maybe when something or someone dies they are ready to go in some way. And I can only hope that they go on to a wonderful new life.

But back to the subject: It really helps me to go to the creek and just sit there and ponder my situation. I find that sitting in my favorite spot alone can calm me, and I get more thinking done that way. I'm the sort of person who needs to think about situations before I jump right into them. I've always been that way, and I have to accept that and use that knowledge. I find that knowing myself and how to help myself can really come in handy when something pops up.

So I know that was just a lot of rambling, but I hope it helped someone in some way. Good luck with your worries, everyone.

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I don't cry often, so I've never been seen as an especially sensitive person. In fact, when I emerge from tearjerker movies dry-eyed my friends believe something is just...wrong...with me

I just don't get especially flustered--outwardly, that is. Inwardly I'm this mass of weirdness. Good thing? Bad thing? Well, it's who I am, and I've learned to make light of some of my worries.

Everyone who knows me finds me at least slightly obsessive. I worry about trivial things and about important things. Some of my close friends are concerned that I have this 'impossible desire to be perfect' (yes, direct quote). I've told them that I could never strive toward perfection. I'm just trying to be the best I can be each day.

I just wish trying to be the best I can involved less late-night mad rushes to finish my homework after wading through a bunch of extracurricular activities. Oh well. I signed up for all the stuff, so who I am to complain?


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Well, it really makes me feel better that now I know I'm not the only one that is like this.

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Wow Lynne, you sound exactly like me!!!
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I obsess over things -- good things, bad things, neutral-but-interesting things -- and think about them again and again and again. It's just the way I am, and sometimes when one of those things I'm constantly thinking about is scary, I just have to force myself to stop thinking about it

But you have to teach yourself not to worry so much. It's a lot easier to talk to somone about it, it takes a lot off your mind.

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