Stop basing your self-image on what other people think of you.
In earnest, I remember very clearly the first time someone made it clear they weren't interested in me when I was in them, and it totally threw me for a loop. Until that happened -- and hit me really hard -- I'd had no idea how much I was basing my self-worth on what I was "worth" to others. Thankfully, that happened pretty early on in my life, and I snapped out of it really fast. It's a road to nowhere.
None of us -- no matter how smart, beautiful or wonderful we are -- can be accepted and adored and admired by everyone (and thank goodness, because it'd be awfully hard to have a real life of value if we were). At times in our lives, we may even find we can't seem to find anyone to recognize us for all that we are. And while that's tough, it's okay...so long as you aren't using others to validate yourself.
So, make a change. That's life --- we aren't everyone's type. We'll get rejected -- for sex, love, jobs, schools, apartments, friendships, what have you -- a lot of times in our lives if we're like most of the populace (and we all pretty much are). We can weather pretty much any kind of rejection if that rejection doesn't start with us rejecting ourselves.
Wish the guy well, move on, and hey, maybe thank him for giving you a clue so that you can find a better way of gaining your own self-esteem.
On your own. That's the only way that works in the long haul.
Editor and Founder, Scarleteen
My epitaph should read: "She worked herself into this ground."
-- Kay Bailey Hutchinson
[This message has been edited by Miz Scarlet (edited 06-06-2001).]