Hi all. I just found this site. This is great - very informative.
I am 18 years old, and in a tech college. I am very intelligent and plan to do pc networking. I have great respect for women and myself - i ensure that i dont deviate from my values.
Here is my story:
When i was about 7 i was 'seduced' by a girl - my cousin actually. She convinced me that sex was something you did once you liked each other. And we were cousins so we liked each other. It made sense - how could i have been so dumb. We had sex for about 3 years. I really didn't know what we were doing until my mom started teaching me about sex. Her classes were very tough to get through as i realized what i was doing. I stop having sex soon after.
I am 18 now and i don't have a girlfriend. I am kinda clumsy around girls, and usually avoid them cause i think they would make sexual advances. I dont want to have sex again until i meet the woman i spend the rest of my life with. Not that i dont like sex or girls, i masturbate daily.
Because of all this i spend most of my time at school alone. I just dont feel like i fit in. This generates a lot of talk.
If any of you have had similar experiences or familar with such, please respond.
Have you considered talking with a counselor about this? Many of us here at Scarleteen visit counselors to help us work through issues related to forming adult relationships and resolving issues from our past.
We're very glad to be supportive here, but sometmies the best support comes from a professional.
I have the exact same story. My cousin was the one who told me sex was good for people if they liked each other. We couldnt really have any penitration cuz we are both girls. But we did have dry sex and she ate me out once or twice. I was about the same age as you when it happend, she was 10-11. we continued untill i was like 11. My mother didnt start to inform me about sex when i was 12-13 so i didnt know it was wrong. Although there is a difference between ur story and mine is that it dossnt affect my socal life at all. I dont know why but it dosent. I have talk to a councilor and that could have help too. but the is here that it IS effecting ur life and u should seek professional help. Trust me it'll be worth it. Abby
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