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unhappykoger
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i called the court and got all the information i need on my husband adopting my son. well i called the biological father today and asked him to sign the papers. he said he needs to think about it. he asked me if he could see Justin and i said why would i let you see heim you havent seen him for the last 2 years why would you want to see him now. i told him that Justin has a mom and dad who love him and a whole second family on his daddys side and that he doesnt need one that isnt going to be there. he said he had to think about it for a while. i told him that he either has to sign the papers and let shawn adopt him or pay child support. i told him he has until tomorrow to think about it because monday i am either filing the adoption papers or i am calling the child support place. i told him that he considers Shawn his daddy so why does he need a father that doesnt care about him see him or love him. he doesnt need that. so now i am calling him back tomorrow if he doesnt call me. if he doesnt sign the adoption consent form then monday i will file for child support.
wish me luck everyone and pray for me and Justin that he signs the papers.

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LilBlueSmurf
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I'm kinda puzzled as to why he would want to see him after 2 yrs as well ...

Your son won't remember him and it'll just confuse him even more. He doesn't need that ... He has to decide if he wants to be in his sons life or not. There is NO in b/w. If Justin decides that he wants to know/meet his biological (i won't even say real) father when he's older, he can. Right now, his dad needs to grow up.

Best of luck sweetie ... I think you're doing the right thing!


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KittenGoddess
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Good luck sweetie...and good for you for being strong about this. I think it's really cool that you know what you want and you're out there getting it!

~KittenGoddess

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alaska
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Good Luck for this, girl - great that you're so determined about this, dear. Am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

*sending good thoughts to Justin's biological father so that he'll sign the papers*

Alles Liebe,
Alaska

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[This message has been edited by Alaska (edited 02-11-2001).]


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Lin
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Oh dear. Justin's biological dad sounds like he is just being an a**hole.

I hope everything works out koger. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Hey, if he signs the papers, how about changing your nick to happykoger? Although that's not actually possible..oh well.

All the best hon. Let us know what happens.

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Ella
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I hope everything works out for you! Good luck with it all
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unhappykoger
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ok i have bad news. i talked to justins biological father and he said he needed to think about it first. well he has been avoinding me since then. but i am filing for child support on monday and i know he doesnt want to pay child support so maybe when he sees the papers that will make him pay he will sign the adoption papers. thats what im hoping for anyway. if not i have to come up with a couple thousand dollars to get a lawyer so i can go through with the adoption by reason of abandonment. here legal abandonment is two months it will be two years on mothers day. either way i will get what i want. i will not have it any other way.

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Lin
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*Hugs* koger.

I really hope everything works out.

God, his father is just being a big fat jerk isn't he?

Sending positive energy your way.


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alaska
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from me, too, koger. Don't let this put you down, good that you're so determined, hon.

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