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i got my school shedule and i literally have classes with NONE of my friends. I'm not so upset about that, but I am worried about lunch. I'm not gonna just go sit with some older kids (im in 10th grade) and I can't be by myself ...I'll look like such an idiot. Has this ever happened to anyone and what did you do?
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This is hard to do, but anyone can do it - Sit by yourself. Don't read a book. Just sit and exude confidence and eat your lunch.
In my experience, you will very soon have a tablefull of people who might become good friends. In the worst case, no one will sit with you - but confidence is, as the commercial says, very sexy.
In the same vein - find a group of people that have an empty seat at their table, and ask if you can sit.
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*BTW, forgot to mention - I just moved off to college. I don't know anyone here, really. But at every meal, I either sit with someone I don't know or sit alone, and I've been meeting lots of people! Historically, for survival, eating is connected as a social activity.*
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Don't really worry about it. You'll meet new people and make more friends by the end of the week. You'll have new lunch buddies in no time. School started last monday, I'm a senior and I have no classes with my friends accept english AP and psych AP. My other 2 classes for this semester are calc AP and spanish 3... none of my friends are in there (they all passed the classes the first time they took them, I'm an idiot ), it's mainly juniors. I'm kinda glad I have these classes because the juniors aren't half bad, considering that I'm in this special program (IB) where I've been with the same 70 people for the last 3 years. I don't have lunch with any of my close friends either, but no biggie.
Meet the new people in your classes, you'll be surprised by all the nice people you meet. Of course there'll be the occasional jerk who thinks their too far up the food chain or something, but no one likes them anyway . Branch out, sticking with the same old people isn't all that great either. I've learned that from experience... something goes wrong in your group of friends and guess what? You have no friends. It really isn't that bad spending time by yourself. I sometimes prefer it over hanging out with a group of people. Good luck.
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), it's mainly juniors. I'm kinda glad I have these classes because the juniors aren't half bad, considering that I'm in this special program (IB) where I've been with the same 70 people for the last 3 years. I don't have lunch with any of my close friends either, but no biggie.
. Branch out, sticking with the same old people isn't all that great either. I've learned that from experience... something goes wrong in your group of friends and guess what? You have no friends. It really isn't that bad spending time by yourself. I sometimes prefer it over hanging out with a group of people. Good luck.
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