3. Get enthusiastic about enthusiastic consent. Rather than looking for a “no,” make sure there’s an active “yes.” What did you do to make sure she was really into it?
4. Speak up for what you really really want. Taking the time to figure out what you actually want from sex for yourself and learning how to speak up about it can be a revolutionary act, and inspire others to follow suit.
6. Globalize your awareness of rape culture. Let’s reauthorize Violence Against Women Act before we cast aspersions on the misogyny of other cultures, shall we?
7. Know your history. We must acknowledge and learn from the US’s long history of state sanctioned violence.
8. Take an intersectional approach. Move the most vulnerable from the margin to the center to develop effective solutions.
9. Practice real politics. When you hear someone call a woman a slut. Try telling them that you know they probably meant no harm, but that you’re concerned that they may be doing some anyhow. And then explain why. And be patient.
10. Lobby your community. Rape culture thrives in passive acceptance of female degradation, victim-blaming and hyper-masculinity in our communities, both physical and digital.
Don’t laugh at rape. So while it might seem harmless to you to laugh at a joke that makes light of rape, your laughter could be telling an unknown rapist in your midst that you think rape is hilarious.
Tell your story. Every political issue has a personal narrative that helps form connections to the issue and bolster support for present and future victims.
It is not enough to bring individual perpetrators of rape and sexual violence to justice. Since the problem lies in a culture that is entertained by degrading acts and images of women, the solution is to look at the individual acts as a symptom of rape culture and solve it holistically. We all have a part to play in allowing rape culture to exist—so, we can all do something to eradicate it.
Conceived by Walter Moseley and co-edited by Rae Gomes.
I found this very inspiring. It can be overwhelming to think that rape culture is everywhere but when you break it down you start to see ways that you can make a difference.
What are your thoughts?
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This is a pretty great list, especially given what most "ways to stop rape" lists look like, which is to say: a huge pile of victim-blaming horribleness. I have even seen some of those "tips" come from rape crisis groups, which is really upsetting to me.
What's so frustrating to me is that toxic masculinity really seems to have a stranglehold on a lot of people - the folks who really need to take this sort of thing to heart have no intention of listening. There is a lot of work being done on talking about how to establish and respect boundaries, enthusiastic consent (which is a model I like and find very helpful, although I have seen valid criticisms of it floating around), moving away from telling people they should prevent being raped and towards telling them not to rape people, and I'm excited about and encouraged by a lot of it, but still there's so much pushback, sometimes, and also outright refusal to see rape as a problem. I wish I didn't feel so cynical about this, but sometimes I really do. =/
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I have been so hopeless lately about my own experience with rape culture lately and this made me cry my eyes out. Thank you so much for giving me hope and sharing this article.
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The biggest issues that have been changed for the better in the world generally start small with just a few people, and then grow because of common ground. And I like to think also because we are human beings, and healthy human beings don't like to see anyone hurt, especially in the case of the "it doesn't bother me, it's okay, it doesn't worry me because it doesn't affect me" kind of thinking that goes along with socially-tolerated or accepted discrimination or violence.
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