My first post- No mean comments 😜 --------- Well i need a bit of help well you see my boyfriend wants Me to give him a Blow Job he said its not his choice and that its mine We've been friends since we were both born and have been dateing for 4 years LONG so i know he means that. I love him but i have some problems 1- i have a really sensitive gag reflex 2- TEETH 3- the taste will be bad because i will not eat any thing or drink any thing thats not food water juice 4- im scared never have done anything SEXUAL in my life it just makes me feel weird Please leave comments answers i need help ASAP please im begging you peoples i literaly have never been this scared in my whole entire life.
-------------------- Never been on this need some help hard bein a teen lolz😜 Posts: 6 | From: Las vegas, NV | Registered: Aug 2012
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It is perfectly fine and normal to be nervous before engaging in a new sexual activity. However, it sounds like you are downright terrified, and that is a very sure sign that you're not ready for this activity yet. Really. Our bodies are very good at letting us know when we're just not there yet, and it's smart to listen to that.
You also say that you've never engaged in anything sexual before, so if you are intersted in exploring sexuality with your boyfriend, I would suggest that you take it down a few notches and start slower. How about kissing? Cuddling? Making out?
(And don't worry about double-posting. I've closed the other thread for you.)
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"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 9181 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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Sexual consent - the right to say yes or no to certain sexual activities - really doesn't work like that. He can't expect you to keep a promise like that. Consenting to sex (saying yes to sex) is something that needs to happen right before any kind of sex - not months or weeks or days before but right before.
Then, all the way through, you have the right and the option to change your mind and say 'no, this doesn't feel okay for me,' or 'I want to stop', or 'I don't feel comfortable' at any point.
So, the best thing to do now would be to tell your boyfriend 'I don't feel ready for oral sex yet, and I won't when you move in. I'm just not ready.' He will have to respect that, as that's only right.
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