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CougarBite
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Ive always tried to do my bit for sexual/gender equality. Recently I was staying at a friends talking about some area of sex education, when roles came up and discussing if it is easier to be perceived as a man or a woman. When I thought about this person being a different gender and found that all their personality traits became very attractive to me, but soon after when they were back to their gender all attraction stopped again. I found them so attractive during that time I am sure that I had a dry orgasm, a short sense of relief with loosening of muscles and general feeling of happiness and calm.
(I know from being told this is happens amongst woman but is it common for men?)

On further reflection on this and talking over with an old mate, he told me I had completely different patterns in what I seemed to find attractive according to if I am precieving the person as being a man or a woman.
(I dont try and do this, infact tried to cut all preconceptions out. If I have been unknowingly making these decision I am only helping to divide worse? or is it something which has come about through being myself or is it a form of society pressure to see differences?)

After these unusual few days I asked a friend if we could try role play within a bedroom context. They agreed and we "cross dressed". About 10-15minutes in a realised that the way I was treating this person was very different to my norm, and it was also happening vice-versa with her becoming more dominant, and rougher.
(Does a penis or vulva being different shapes justify being treated so differently within the bedroom?)

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Heather
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Hey there, CougarBite.

I'm feeling a little bit lost in this post per getting a sense of what you're asking or wanting to talk about.

Might you be able to clarify that for me? Thanks!

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CougarBite
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Do apologise was going to put this across 3:
1. Is it possible to have a feeling of "sexual relief" without having any type of sex, and without ejaculating?

2. Is it normal to find completely different things sexually attractive in XX as to XY.

3. (Dont know how to put this one, so Ill get back to you on this one)

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Heather
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1. I think it depends on what "sexual relief" is. I'm not actually sure what you mean by that since it's not a term we use in sexology or sex education. But if you mean, can a person feel sexual desires or arousal and then find those ebb or feel sated without engaging in sex or reaching orgasm, then the answer is yes. Sexual desires and sexual arousal don't *have* to be "answered" by sexual activity or orgasm.

To boot, sometimes people DO engage in sex or reach orgasm and still don't feel their desires are sated or experience arousal as subsiding.

2. I'm not sure how you know people's karyotypes (I'm not even sure I know my own, never having had it tested!) regardless, but if you mean can people who find people of different genders or sexes attractive find different things attractive about those different groups, then the answer is yes.

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