That's a stunning article, thumb tack, thanks.
I thought a lot of it was gold, but this is a stand-out: "...I was also taught, that to assume that a man is a rapist just because he's stopping you doing something you are showing clearly that you want to do, is hysterical, man-hating, hairy-pitted feminism which is a Bad Thing. And so once again, his boundary-breaking behaviour, didn't really bother or alarm me as I didn't perceive it as boundary-breaking, I perceived it as normal."..."I hadn't treated him the way society says women treat rapists, I'd treated him the way many women actually treat rapists - like a bit of a nuisance who have to be tolerated for a bit. I'd been socialised to believe that you just had to put up with men touching you when you didn't want them to. The one time I'd seen a woman react furiously to such treatment, everyone laughed at her and said how over the top she was and how unreasonable when he didn't mean anything by it. ... And then society tells us that it's our fault we were raped, because we didn't do the thing they call us hysterical bitches for, when we do do it."
and as a concise and powerful point, I especially take away this:
"Except that I had resisted, just not in a way that society defines resistance. Society has allowed rapists to define what resistance is".
-------------------- The kyriarchy usually assumes that I am the kind of woman of whom it would approve. I have a peculiar kind of fun showing it just how much I am not. Posts: 1786 | From: Europe | Registered: Sep 2011
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