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ilovemusic1
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I'm defining pornography as anything sexually explicit that aims to arouse.

I'm curious about porn, but my parents don't like it. This bothers me because I can't talk to them about it and they have parental controls on my computer so I can't access porn. What do you think about it, and have any of you been in a similar situation?

[ 02-03-2010, 03:05 PM: Message edited by: ilovemusic1 ]

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Heather
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One thing to know is that you're under the age at which a person can legally peruse/purchase pornography in the United States.

Given, this is not something you would be charged for: the legal responsibility lays in the hands of legal adults, to those who would be providing pornography to a minor. And that absolutely can include parents.

Now, that doesn't mean parents have a legal obligation to block porn: they do not. But once this issue has been put on the table, were you to ask them to unblock it to you could use porn, and they agreed that okay, they'd do that, they'd effectively be making an agreement with you which involved them breaking the law.

In other words, were parents to say "Here, knock yourself out, go ahead and access porn if you want," they could actually be putting your whole family at a legal risk. Parents being charged with negligence or corruption of a minor for expressly doing that has happened and can. That'd also be the kind of thing that can get social services called in.

If there were not legal issues when it came to any of this, this would be a much different conversation. But there very much are. And as well, you also are a minor right now, living in your parent's home, where there are going to be certain rules you just have to accept, especially if your parents aren't willing to negotiate or if bending those rules can create risks like legal risks.

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ilovemusic1
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Thanks Heather! I actually wasn't sure what the laws were, so it's nice to know. I don't look at porn, and have accepted their rules against it, but I wasn't sure if there was any way to talk to them about it. This really wasn't meant as a way to disrespect my parents' rules or anything like that. Thanks again. I appreciate the information.

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Heather
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By all means, I think you can talk to them about any of this: there are certainly no laws against discussing the issue as a whole.

Just be aware that asking them to arrange things you you could access porn would be asking them to break the law. So, obviously, you don't want to try/ can't really negotiate that.

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