So, then, what are your sexual preferences? Do you feel okay about them? Are some of them a little more dubious than others? Do you like redheads? Or people with short hair? Maybe it's Russians? Perhaps you're attracted to people of a specific race... or maybe amputees? For many, it's a fair bit more touchy to say that you're attracted to someone with a physical disability, or someone of a specific race.

Is anybody here uncomfortable with their sexual preferences? Feel free to talk about all of these issues here, without necessarily getting into the particulars.

I just find the thought of a slim little body very arousing.

Right now, the whole dynamic of dating a younger guy is really awesome. I get to teach him things about relationships and romance and it's a lot of fun being in the more experienced role.

And humor. Guys I date usually HAVE to have a great sense of humor. He doesn't have to make me laugh (but it's a plus!) but he has to at least love to laugh.

Nothing turns me on more than a guy who's dead honest. Because that's the way I am. If I ask if something makes me look fat, I REALLY want to know so I don't make an ass out of myself. I love to know what a guy wants and how he's feeling. No poetry needed.

My boyfriend's got an interesting preference, too. He's one of many guys I know who has "yellow fever." So far, he's only dated Asian girls. He doesn't deny that he graviates towards Asian girls, but he gets very defensive whenever people try to speculate on why he is preferentially attracted to Asian girls.

There are some people who speculate that white guys stereotype Asian girls as submissive, demure, exotic, etc. (who's stereotyping who?). An Asian-Am galpal of mine discussed this with him. He said that the Asian girls who tend to date interracially are the ones who are more assimilated into American culture. These girls are not the submissive, geisha types (me? submissive? *laughs maniacally*). Therefore, the exotic stereotyping argument doesn't hold. So why does he like the Asian girls? When asked, he simply said, "I think you're pretty."

gotta hand it to my boy, he knows just what to say

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"Things are only fragile till they break."

I always notice blue eyes first, but I'm not quite sure if it's a preference of mine or just something I think sticks out. I tend to lean more towards guys with darker hair as well, and who usually are on the tall side.

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'You've got the eyes of ten women. Not in a jar! I wasn't accusing you. I just mean your eyes are really nice'-coupling

i dont like any really muscular guys... or anything like that... and i notice that skaters seem to turn my head more than anyone else. i dunno why... mayb cause my ex was... but its all good...

mostly i like guys with darker hair... i dont seem to have a racial preference... but anyone nice, outgoing, and funny helps... and sarcastic (not too too sarcastic... that can be just mean...)...

i seem to go for guys that are around my size... as in height. i have a friend who refuses to go out with a guy who's shorter than she is... and she's pretty tall herself. i'm totally indifferent. height isnt a qualification for me, but age is... they cant be in a lower grade than i am... its okay if they're a few months younger and IN my grade... but they have to be born at least the same year as me... or older.

and i think thats all i can think of at the moment. =)

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dont worrie b happie... its like a law! =)

I like guys who don't shop at Abercrombie and Fitch, don't love only cheerleaders, only see the exterior, and aren't like most of the guys at my school.

In other words, I dig a great personality. I used to like the GAP goer, hair-gellers, and really clean-shaven guys, but now I am head-over-heels in LUST with Rivers Cuomo of Weezer. *sigh* ... those glasses ... *swoon* and he's so EMOtional! And the songs he writes are fromt he heart. Not like NSYNC.

Anyway, I am a very, very, very hopeless romantic. I dream up things in my head all the time. *sigh*

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Proud member of the "Yes-I-Am-In-Love-With-Rivers-Cuomo" Fan Club.

I'm really attracted to guys who have piercings and tattoo's, but who are nice. I like the 80's punk look a lot too. Grungy, or hippy i'm really attracted to as well. I don't tend to go for guys who are preppy in the least or are jocks or actually, who are considered to be in the popular crowd.

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'You've got the eyes of ten women. Not in a jar! I wasn't accusing you. I just mean your eyes are really nice'-coupling

Other than the physical, she needs to be fun, can't stand girls who think they're above other people.

So there's me.

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Life rocks

i am also attracted to cross dressers. but only ones who are attached to their physical sex if not to their gender - i'm not attracted to transexuals. i spent years being uncomfortable/denying that attraction and have only relatively recently come to terms with it. which is a good thing b/c my current guy dresses....

However, he seems to be slacking so I'll just do it myself. I'm attracted to what Tim calls the "Johnny Bravo" type and what I call "folk who could break me and half." I simply prefer someone to be bigger than me, with males I'd prefer that to be more muscular, with females I love the well-rounded look.

And, regardless of what Tim may tell you, I really prefer the folk I'm attracted to be much smarter (but just as well intentioned) as Johnny Bravo.

Ooh, and let me second the males in skirts. I don't care why they're in the skirt, I just want to see more of it.

And anyone that I can look at and be in the dark about their gender. I love the androgynous look...

Especially in girls (I like both), I like darkish skin...hispanic or Indian women I have always found beautiful. I haven't found a pattern for what shape of girl I generally find appealing, but I notice faces more than bodies. Smiles are a must in both genders ;-)

As for the physical aspect, I have to admit that I've been attracted to people who run the gammut. I've swooned (internally, of course) over the ultra-thin, slightly built American Eagle guy, then there has been the curvy pseudo-popular girl with great hair and eyes, and I've even been attracted to someone who falls into the Johnny Bravo-category that I've been credited with creating.

To say the least, physical attraction is a weird thing for me. There is no method to my madness in that area.

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I refuse to let myself be attracted to anyone who says "funner."

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To say the least, physical attraction is a weird thing for me. There is no method to my madness in that area.

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Me too, Tim. Stupid people (not that one grammar mistake labels you stupid) who can't tell the different in "your" and "you're" really bug me. Intelligence is key!

And yeah, I have to agree with you on the second. Lately when I've been with my friends they'll say "he is HOT" and I just can't agree. It's like a mental block ... hard to explain.

Personality-wise, they have to be intelligent and have a sense of humor, along with a compatible sexuality.

Wearing clothing in my size was an unexpected bonus....

I was thinking about this..and then it hit me liek a brick (well not QUITE as hard) I'm really very attracted to the activist-type guys. Clean activist guys. Or a bit artsy..I saw a pic in my trash magazines yesterday...It made me nearly swoon. Very art-refugee-activist.

For those of you who are sexually attracted to men, do y'all have a preference about circumcision?

This is something that most men didn't have a say in, of course, so I think it applies.

Personality wise they have to be intelligent, voice their opinions and feel strongly about their beliefs, they have to know how to have have fun, but be serious too. I like a guy who takes things seriously. Also, someone who can be open with their emotions and tell me when something is wrong, and if I do something wrong. Honesty is key. They should also be creative in some way.

For girls, body type isn't that big a deal, there are some that i don't like but i like either tall and thin, short and thin or short and just a tad chubby. Girl who wear their makeup the right way and with short hair. Eyes.., big smoldering eyes make me melt. Nose rings also, make me swoon. On thin girls, protruding hipbones and small breasts are cute.

Personality wise the same thing, i love a creative girl.

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granted, they can't miss what they were never aware they had.

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But if I'm aware I once had it, then I can wonder about what it might've been like. That's what bothers me about it... that I can never experience the alternative firsthand.

So, about preferences. Well, I tend to prefer brunettes, with long curly hair, although I can't deny that a cute blonde is always welcome. Doesn't need to be thin, just average is acceptable too.

But I guess the major physical turn on would be the face. It's just that I need a cute well shaped face. Make-up is usually good but natural can be very good too.

For the looks and attitude, I've always liked calm, slightly shy girls, maybe because I'm the same. But lately, I've been mostly looking towards the rebel type; which include the rock-punk girl, or the "goth" ones, except smokers.

Of course, like a lot of people said, intelligence is a must, sense of humor is appreciated, and romantic is a plus.

So, if you look at celebrities, my type would be like Jennifer Love Hewitt. The sweet, cute, funny girl.

David

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- I hope I shall be able to confide in you completely, as I have never been able to do in anyone before, and I hope that you will be a great support and comfort to me.

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nonetheless, my boyfriend reports that he still gets sexual pleasure, and he likes the way his organ looks...

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...and I can vividly remember him saying that at one of our patented Debaucherous Barbecues a few months back.

I was not consciously aware of my preference until a few years ago. I was moving at the time, and came upon a box full of pictures of girls I had dated or had crushes on. Seventeen in total, covering a period from about 1991 through 2000. It dawned on me that all of them looked alike! Almost eerie to see the progression, to be truthful.

All were brunettes, half with bangs and half without (and I can remember begging the half without to grow them, heehee), all of a similar love-letter-writing style, and all with infectious giggles. I failed to notice it at the time, but I clearly had one solid type I was after, and I stuck with that for a full decade. Breast size varied (as they tend to do), and I really have no preference whatsoever. I've never dated a woman with breast implants, but I think that has more to do with the fact that I tend to be attracted to women who are comfortable enough with their bodies not to get them. Hair length varied somewhat too, though I've always preferred it long enough to be braided or pigtailed or have cute things put into. Other than that though, my little preference held perfectly tight.

Until I began dating a blonde.

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BruinDan, "Number Three"

What does it say about our society that while that goes on frequently, no one looks at people who only date partners of the same race and thinks that that person must be racist, and afraid to date blacks, or Asians, or whites?

For guys: I like tall with dark or blond hair and green or brown eyes. Nice chests are very good. Lean, but not flabby, and DEFINITELY not with big muscles. That turns me off so much.

For girls: Small and slim - as somebody said earlier, people think I'm all prejudice and stuff because of it - with straight, dark hair, fair skin, green or brown eyes. She doesn't have to be very curvy at all, but I like to be able to tell she's not a guy. ^_^

I like feminity in guys... Lean, slender, especially with narrow shoulders and a prominant collarbone. I have this great big *Thing* for guys with long, silky hair. I like refined, angular features.

For girls, I'm attracted to boldness, strength, and sturdiness. I'm into the whole defiant, who-gives-a-care attitude, and I'm completely in love with the entire idea of tomboy.

My ideal partner is someone who can match me in verbal sparring and who is willing to fight me for the last cookie in the jar or whatever. ^^

o.o So I guess that means I want either a girly guy or a boyish girl... Go figure.

...that a lot of girls always seem to like the dark and mysterious Josh Hartnett type of guy and a lot of guys like the blond-haired, blue-eyed Anna Kournikova?

I'm not saying everybody does (because I know a bunch of people who don't), but it just seems like a weird pattern.

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"Time is the glue that bonds a broken heart, but love is the air which dries the glue." -J. Franklin

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...that a lot of girls always seem to like the dark and mysterious Josh Hartnett type of guy and a lot of guys like the blond-haired, blue-eyed Anna Kournikova?

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I would think that a lot of that comes from it being the beauty standard. And there's nothing wrong with people finding it attractive. It's only when Vogue and Cosmopolitan decide to pressure everyone into thinking that's the picture of perfection, and therefore, if you don't fit it, well... uh-oh for you.

Oy, I hope that made sense? Coffee?

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Tim, as in "Whoa, Dude."
Scarleteen Advocate

I'm into the dorky, funny but smart type of guys. They have to be able to look stupid in front of me without worrying about what i think. Oh and he has be as stubborn and pig headed as me, I can't date a guy who wimps out when we get into an arguement, especially an intellectual one. If i win an arguement i want to actual win it because i was right.

On to the physical aspect. I like guys who have broad shoulders, or actually shoulders that are broader then mine (i'm no petite chickidee.) He has to also have his own sense of style.I'm not saying a trend setter, but a guy who doesn't follow what everyone else is into.

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But I'm also totally swooning over Legolas from LOR and he's a blond, long haired elf.

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Yeah, I do agree. I think the media definitely puts too much pressure on beauty standards.

I don't buy CosmoGIRL to actually read it, I buy it because it's kind of fun to poke at the editors and to feel sorry for the people who do agree with it.

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"Time is the glue that bonds a broken heart, but love is the air which dries the glue." -J. Franklin