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-Lauren-
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I just read a post that really sparked this in my mind, but it would have been a little ranty to post there, so I thought I'd give this a shot.

It seems there seems to be a lot of hollibaloo about the G-spot; everywhere you look, there's toys made to stimulate it, couples are being told to aim for it during intercourse, the works.

What bothers me, though, is it seems to be making a renewed case for why vaginal intercourse alone is THE thing to do. Women's pleasure comes in the greatest part from the clitoris, which can be difficult to stimulate during intercourse, making the act not all that appealing for some.

It seems like the G-spot is being advertised as some magic button that can finally make a woman hit the roof, orgasm and ejaculate dramatically, etc from sex alone. I've been upset to read that "search for the g-spot, and try positions to stimulate it" has replaced "communicate with your partner, and incorporate more varied activity to bring both of you pleasure" in some columns and magazines I frequent.

I hope I make sense here. Thoughts?

[ 12-18-2006, 05:23 PM: Message edited by: Miss Lauren ]

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Djuna
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Absolutely. Not possessing one myself, I can't comment as to its wonders [Smile] , but it certainly seems to have been blown out of all proportion.
At the end of the day, communicating and having a healthy sex life as a couple is far more important than finding a peice of spongy tissue the size of a coin deep in the vaginal canal.
That said, it is worth looking for (if only just to see what you will see [Wink] ), and I guess it's good that women are being made aware that they probably have one.
But really, the couples who don't already communicate well etc won't get much out of it (or ANY sex, really). The ones who already had a great sex life will find (probably) that it's something else to do, but they were nevertheless still very happy before it came along.
What I'm saying is, we managed fine before the G-Spot. Those couples (ie those men) who never got the hang of the clitoris will probably never get the hang of the G-Spot (biological issues aside).

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Heather
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quote:
What bothers me, though, is it seems to be making a renewed case for why vaginal intercourse alone is THE thing to do.
Don't have time to weigh in big here -- great topic, though, and I agree, a lot to talk about with it -- but just thought it'd be worth mentioning that it's actually very rare for most educated g-spot instruction to be talking about vaginal intercourse, because most of the time, it's really far more targeted -- and/or fuller -- vaginal stimulus required for g-spot stimulation.

So, most videos, book, etc. will talk a lot more about fingers per the g-spot than about penises.

On the other hand, it's unsurprising, in line with what you're saying, that it's often blindly assumed g-spot stimulus must be an intercourse issue or given BECAUSE it's so often assumed that the only/best vaginal stimulation is penis-vagina intercourse.

(It also strikes me as a bit odd, Jospeh, to say "we managed fine" before "the g-spot came along," because, of course, it's been in our bodies the whole time, and plenty of women have BEEN enjoying it for some time. Knowing more about something may make it more likely for those who didn't know about it to find some new pleasure and/or for those who have been enjoying it to find out what it is, and thus, understand more of their own bodies.)

[ 12-18-2006, 06:37 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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I've noticed the increased press that the G-Spot has been getting as well. I have seen articles on penile stimulation of the G-Spot and digital stimulation of the G-Spot. It appeared to me that the digital exploration of the vaginal wall was the better of the two options. Generally speaking, I've learned that when stimulating the G-Spot, firm pressure is most beneficial. Thus, using the finger(s) is the best way to go.

Then again, everyone is different. As posted previously, good communication simply cannot be replaced by technique. Whether that's firm pressure or lighter pressure; or the preference of clitoral stimulation over G-Spot stimulation. In any event, couples who can talk openly about sex will always have many options from which to choose. And good for them! [Smile]

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