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RealityIsTough
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Hey!

I was just wondering...when did you guys start becoming sexually active. And by that I meant Oral and Manual and Everything.

If you could tell me, I'd greatly appreciate it...cause I think I mite be ready [Big Grin]

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Hi,

For me it was 17. I got my first kiss at that age, and things just progressed from there (i.e manual and oral) although not all in the same night, obviously (lol)... it happened over the course of a few months.

So, that's when things started for me...

[Smile]

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When we started participating in any of these activities has nothing to do with YOU being ready.

Only YOU know when you're ready, you shouldn't start engaging in anything just because it is the average age of when others have started.

There's a page on scarleteen that has a checklist or something along those lines that you can read to see if your ready. I'd post it here, but am not sure how seeing as how I'm still relativly new (alright, not relativly new, I AM new) . . .if anyone knows the page I am speaking of, would you ming posting it up so RealityIsTough can take a look at it? Thanks!

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Voila! Ready or Not? The Readiness Checklist

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Sure thing, FadingStar!

Sex Readiness Checklist

{Award goes to karybu for fastest fingers.}

[ 07-10-2006, 11:34 PM: Message edited by: Miss Lauren ]

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Thanks you guys, youre both a big help!

Take a look at these pages, RealityIsTough, and base your readiness on what you read rather than on how old others were when they started!

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well actually...i was hoping u guys could give me tips or something..as for when u started...i was just curious
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It depends on what you mean by tips. If you mean tips on when to become sexually active, they're in the handy-dandy sexual readiness guide linked above.

If the tips you're looking for pertain to sexual activities, we can't give them to you, as highlighted in the guidelines.

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When I just turned 14 (a month or so ago).
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If you are talking about full intercourse, well I didn't even have it yet and I am 19 years-old.

Maybe I will have sex in a few weeks,in a few months, I don't know. The thing is right now I haven't dated my boyfriend long enough for me to think that I might be ready to have sex with him.

Really don't worry, losing your virginity is not a matter of age. Do I feel pressure of having sex because I'm still a virgin at that age ? No. Well...Yes, maybe a little bit, I'm not gonna lie, but that's not a reason for me to have sex. You should only have intercourse when you feel ready to, not because you feel pressure.

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If there is even a doubt in your mind, don't have sex. Your virginity is something special, and if you're unsure, but you do sleep with him, you will regret it, trust me. Almost everyone's regret is that they lost their virginity too soon. Do what you feel is right, not what other people tell you is right
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Just a reminder, colombianabi: Not everybody regards their virginity as something special, nor do all regard intercourse as loss of their virginity. Many people enjoy first-time sex without regrets later.

Those that DID regret intercourse later likely did so because they had unrealistic expectations (such as expecting their partner to stick around forever, expecting mind-blowing pleasure etc), instead of virginity loss alone.

[ 07-12-2006, 03:13 PM: Message edited by: Miss Lauren ]

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I think it was maybe 14 was the first kiss...makeout session with a strsanger. 16 oral, stupid situation. 16 lost my virginity, stupid situation but I dont really regret it that much its just what it was
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I say only go ahead if there is absolutely no doubt at all that its what you want. And i mean not a shred of doubt [Razz] If there is its not exactly gonna hurt to put it off for longer until you really do feel ok with it.
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(Do keep in mind though, that in many areas having any sexual contact, not just intercourse, is ILLEGAL before a certain age. That age is usually 16, but it varies depending on where you live. So whether you have doubt or not, best to check the laws first)

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Well, the kiss came rather soon with my current boyfriend (first). We progressed to manual sex when we had been together for a year and one month. We haven't gone past that, and we've been together for a year and eight months now.

Don't let him pressure you into having any kind of sex. It's not healthy, and you shouldn't ever do anything that you don't want to do.

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Well i lost my virginity 2 days ago which makes me 15.
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first snog --- 12
oral sex ---- 15

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First kiss- 11
Manual- 13 (Regrets)
Oral- 15 (No regrets)

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Manual-13
Oral-14
Intercourse-15

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Manual - 17
Intercourse - 17
Oral - 18

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First kiss: 14
Manual: 15 (after a year and a half with the same/first boyfriend I had my first kiss with)
Oral: 16 (after 1 year and 8 months or so with the same guy)
Intercourse: not yet! And we've been together 2 years and 3 months now [Smile]

In all three cases, no regrets. [Big Grin]

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First kiss: 16
Manual: 17

That's it so far.

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First kiss: 15
Manual: 15 (regrets)
Oral: 17
Intercourse: 17, and no regrets! My boyfriend and I have only been going out for 6 months which I know might seem like "not long enough" to some people, but for us it was the right time. Which just goes to show you, as everyone else has said: you can't base your own readiness on the ages of others. But if/when you decide you are ready, then good luck and be safe!

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First kiss: Not Yet
Manual: Not Yet
Oral: Not Yet
Intercourse: Not Yet

Of course, I'd had a lot of baggage during the period when I was supposed to be experimenting with the above. I am possibly the only 21 year old man who's never even been kissed (clergy and eunichs notwithstanding), but considering I have 'extreme social phobia', amongst other difficulties, it's probably for the best.

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(James- my good friend is a 21 year old guy who's never been kissed too, it's not that uncommon [Smile] Your time will come!)

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Whats the 'manual' part mean?
Sorry if that sounds like a really stupid question!

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Manual refers to manual sex, or stimulating your partner's genitals with your hands.

And it's not a stupid question at all. [Smile]

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I started becoming sexually active at age 19 so this means.....well, this year.

By sexually active I mean oral and manual sex. I haven't really had intercourse yet.

So that makes me at 19 really late compared to other people. But really, why would it matter ? [Smile] There's no average age for oral, manual and vaginal sex !

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First kiss: 8
Manual: 17
Oral: 17
Intercourse: 17

all of them with no regrets [Smile]

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i'm hoping you'll learn from my mistakes.

first kiss: 11
manual: 13
oral: 13
intercourse: barely 14


WORST MISTAKES OF MY LIFE!
don't mess it up.


wait until YOU are ready.

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first kiss: 14
manual:15
oral:15
intercourse:not yet but im willing to wait!
*but all of these have been with only one guy who is my boyfriend of 1 year and 3 monthes.

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1st kiss with a guy like 11
1st time having sex with a guy i was like 14
1st kiss with a girl 12
1st time having sex with a girl like a few months ago so 17

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quote:
Originally posted by blysse_norwood:
Hi,

For me it was 17. I got my first kiss at that age, and things just progressed from there (i.e manual and oral) although not all in the same night, obviously (lol)... it happened over the course of a few months.

So, that's when things started for me...

[Smile]

I progressed from first kiss to first manual in the same day when 16! not so obvious eh!

Received about 10 seconds worth of oral sex at 16 also. Because that's all the lady in question wanted. I didn't premature ejaculate! And I knew better than to push for more!

And nothing new since then [Smile] but i've kissed people 3 times since that "relationship" disaperated.

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