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pluot
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I was in 7th (so, about 12 or 13) grade when this conversation took place.

Dad: Have you had a sex ed class in school?
Me: Um, no, that is next year, I think.
Dad: OK. Just checking. You probably know more than us already, anyway. ("Us" refers to my parents)

So, this was the sex talk I got from my parents. (Seriously.)

The problem is that, at the time, I DIDN'T know more than my parents. I had a very basic understanding of body parts and, more or less, how they worked, but I wanted to know more. I needed to know more. I was curious. I had begun to notice that sex and sexuality were all over the place - in TV shows, movies, magazines, advertisements, tucked into grown-up conversations, jokes...I knew it existed, but I didn't know how to get access to the information.

The timing is a bit hazy, but around that time, I found Scarleteen.

I read articles.
I read and posted on the message boards.
I re-read articles.
I began to learn some language and attitudes about sex, sexuality, and consent.
I had a safe place and an internet community that did not judge me or make me feel weird or ashamed or abnormal about thinking I was bisexual (later gay, now queer).

Now, I have come full circle. I am 25 and (as I write this), I am putting off/finding resources for a piece I am writing for a sex ed curriculum that will soon be implemented into young adult faith communities in the metro area where I live. I stumbled across Scarleteen and have, literally, been glued to it for the past few days.

Again, I read some articles.
I checked out the message board.
I re-read some articles.
I understand and actively use the ideas and language presented about sex, sexuality, and consent.
I am so happy to see how much Scarleteen has grown since I stopped visiting it regularly (probably in my late teens).

I just wanted to let everyone know: This is an amazing resource and it, quite likely, changed my life.

I am excited to report that I tell my parents all about the sex-positive sex ed work that I am doing and they seem genuinely excited for me! My dad is baffled by the idea of enthusiastic consent (he thinks it "takes the fun out of it" - I assure him it doesn't, but struggle somewhat giving him examples that are appropriate for the boundaries of our relationship).

Thank you, Heather (and volunteers!). You planted the seeds of sex-positivity in a teenagers mind. Thank you, Scarleteen.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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That's awesome!

Can I ask if you've looked into Our Whole Lives, the sexuality education curriculum put out by the Unitarian Universalist Association and the United Church of Christ?

It's a full church year comprehensive sexuality education and it is, to put it mildly, basically the most awesome thing ever.

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Yes! I have looked into and been a bit trained in OWL!

We are using parts of it, but tailoring the general curriculum for Jewish young adults.

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In that case, have you teamed up with The Religious Action Center for Reform Judaism?

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I don't think so - I'm not heading the team, so I am not 100% certain. But I also think the RAC is a little more conservative with their sex ed messages than we, as a group, tend to be (or, really, want to be).
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Really? Last year I went to a conference put on by the UUA, the UCC and the RAC to campaign for the REAL act. the conference actually took place in the RAC and everyone there was hugely supportive of OWL and the REAL Act (responsible education about life).

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Thank YOU for such a lovely thank you! How exciting to hear about the work that you're doing, too! [Smile]

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CoatRack (/Andy?)-

Again, I could be completely wrong about any teaming up with the RAC, but I haven't heard anything about it and their presence in Boston isn't huuuge. So...I'm not sure on that front.

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