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lemming
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All right...I've been trying not to cry for about two hours now but I might not make it thru the email, if I don't then I'll just click submit...

I talked to my boyfriend on the phone, he said his blood test from yesterday had come back and all he could really tell me (he sounded horrible) was that they said he had some sort of liver problem...he also said that last night his throat swelled up......

what really gets me is that his parents have 7 children and they can't take care of them! he's had a fever of 101-02 for THREE WEEKS! they don't have any insurance, and he was sick for about 2 wks before he went in for the blood work because it was going to cost......

all I can say is that I feel really horrible, really worried, and now I'm scared about myself, too - if it's something to do with his liver, isn't that serious? and if it's hepatitis, couldn't I have gotten it from just kissing? I haven't slept with him but we've kissed a lot...

and besides that don't you never get over hepatitis? and he only weighs about 120 pounds and he's 5'8" or so...and he can't gain weight no matter what he tries...and I'm very very scared...

I don't know what I want from writing this...I just want to hear if anyone knows the answers to my questions, if anyone's been through something like this before...

I love him regardless, I truly do, but I'm worried sick and that's not good - I need to put myself first and be ok in that way - but it's hard...

~lemming

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*Sends Lemming support vibes*
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Lemming, honey,

Is he still in Chicago, or am I confusing him with someone else? This is outrageous. If he is, e-mail me, honey, and let's try and get him some health care. Having grown up there with family in the health industry and community services, we can find him something, for crying out loud.

Depending on what excatly is wrong with his liver, it may or may not be serious, it's really hard to say without all the details or being his doctor.

Hepatitis is usually spread by blood (through needles or transfusions) or through vaginal, anal, or oral sex . Not kissing. It is treatable, and some cases are curable. It can indeed cause liver damage.

Lemming, I am so sorry you are going through this. It is really hard to deal with major illnesses with someone you care about, and harder still when you feel so helpless.


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quote:
Originally posted by Miz Scarlet:
Lemming, honey,

Is he still in Chicago, or am I confusing him with someone else? This is outrageous. If he is, e-mail me, honey, and let's try and get him some health care. Having grown up there with family in the health industry and community services, we can find him something, for crying out loud.


Nope. You got Chicago right, but that's where the two of us are supposed to be moving in about a month and a half. I think that will be postponed on his side for awhile now, since he hasn't been able to work...

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Depending on what excatly is wrong with his liver, it may or may not be serious, it's really hard to say without all the details or being his doctor.

Gotcha.

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Hepatitis is usually spread by blood (through needles or transfusions) or through vaginal, anal, or oral sex . Not kissing. It is treatable, and some cases are curable. It can indeed cause liver damage.

Thank you so much for that! I knew I remembered a little bit from Health last year, but I couldn't find my notes. ;]

I talked with him this evening, and he says he seems to be feeling a bit better - but there has been a case of tonsillitis going around among our friends lately and I think he's caught that, too...

hopefully I won't get that, though - I've been very healthy lately. I'll start taking my vitamins and drinking lots of water.

it's times like these I wish that I believed in something I could pray to, but I don't feel like there's anything I can do. I'm going to go over, and bring him some soup, tomorrow. meanwhile, my mother has been nice and understanding, and she helped me dye my hair tonight. so I feel a bit better. just gotta keep talking to him, and we'll get through this. ;]

Thanks, all you guys. feel free to keep posting, and love ya, Miz Scarlet.

~lemming

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Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking.
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lemming
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the lemming saga update, just because it makes me feel a little better to tell you guys about this...

well, I couldn't talk to him today, and I feel rotten about that...but I was at my own dr appt all morning (physical) and worked crisis hotline this afternoon - but I feel bad because I feel like I should have tried to call and I didn;'t...

so then I went out tonight with some friends who all knew about the two of us, and we tried to make me feel a bit better - *yawns* - and then, on the way home, I just fel tlike I should go over and bring him some chicken soup or something...so I called, and talked to his sister (she's my age, and a friend) and she said that the doctor today told him to go see a specialist tomorrow...

all I can think is that this whole thing is absurd, that we live in a civilized country, and maybe we ought to have socialized health care but we don't, and there are people who yuou could never guess that live next door to you and they don't have insurance and their health suffers because of it...

and I am just so worried...I am taking care of myself, I am eating...

another thing - I don;'t want him to feel bad that he go tsick right now - because he'll still be recovering and he'll either miss the fall semester or whatever (I'm sort of guessing from what I know of his symptoms etc that he has hep A and I will probly have to go get a shot real soon...I think I might, tomorrow....)

and the other thing, I suppose what makes me so sad, is that I haven't been a very good girlfriend to other guys. I have been unfaithful and played games, and I have always gotten the guy I liked, and I have never lost anyone...and I'm afraid that the one I don't screw over is going to be the one I lose...

and it was just WEEKS ago that he was fine, and happy, and we were lying together on his bed nuzzling our noses and thinking about moving up together...and now all this horrible crap. and I feel bad.


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