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gogo2439
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I am positive I am not pregnant. And I've read all the articles here about if I could have been pregnant or not, but the thing is I've been hanging here in a rut trying to convince myself to trust myself and these articles when I say I'm not pregnant.

All I'm looking for is someone to tell me: No dear, you are not pregnant. You're just very stressed and anxious because you realize you weren't ready to be involved sexually.

If someone could just do that for me it'd be fantastic. To shed some light on how I know I'm not pregnant:

1)I never had sex or rubbed genitals. The only concern I had was that I or my partner may/may not have had wet precum on our hands and then fingered me

2) 2 days after the event, I had a normal period that lasted 7 days. This means I more than likely was not even ovulating at the time of the "sexual encounter"

3) I showed signs of ovulation with my EWCM about 2 weeks after my period

4) At my expected time, I had PMS symptoms that were unusually stronger, however they disappeared 2 days into my next period which came at the proper time and last 7 days once again.

5) I took a pregnancy test with a mornings first urination, 52 days after the encounter and it read not pregnant after 3 minutes

6) I started charting my cervical position and mucus and it seems that I am about to ovulate again soon (about 2.5 weeks after my last period)

7) My weight has been generally stable and within a 129.2-131.8 pound range for the past month

I just can't get myself to believe that I'm not pregnant. I don't WANT to be pregnant either! I keep making up new symptoms of pregnancy. Today it was having an unusually firm upper abdomen and constipation. I think all I need to relieve myself is to have someone just tell me what I said before^^^ so that I know I'm not alone in this. Please help me regain my sanity. I've sworn to wait until I'm sure I'm prepared to participate in such activities again.

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Heather
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You never did what someone needs to to create a pregnancy in the first place, and that alone = not pregnant.

But a negative pregnancy test on top of that and periods also = not pregnant.

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Sam W
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Since it's clear you know you aren't pregnant, our outside confirmation can only do so much. But you are correct, You're not pregnant.

I know you've said you've read up, but if you haven't had a chance to look at this article, it may help you
You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?

It sounds like you think the anxiety is coming from being sexual before you were ready. Are you taking steps to only be as sexual as you are comfortable with currently

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gogo2439
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Outside confirmation was all I was looking for. It really does help with anxiety.

To wrap everything up, could someone say "No dear, you are not pregnant. You're just very stressed and anxious because you realize you weren't ready to be involved sexually."

I really appreciate the rapid support from scarleteen [Smile]

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Heather
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Well, we can't know how you feel or why or tell you how you feel, but by all means, if you feel that this is coming from not feeling ready, that absolutely can be, and often is, a reason people freak like this.

And no, dear, you are clearly not pregnant. [Smile]

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gogo2439
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Thank you, all of you very much. I can already feel my nerves unwinding. You all do what you do for a great purpose! Without understanding and patient people such as yourselves, I don't know what I would do.

Once again, Thanks!

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Desire
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The same situation applies to me, but this post has somehow calmed me down. Thanks

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God bless.

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