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Teendrama
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I really want someone to talk to about all this. I am late for my period and I am never ever late (and I've had a period for 12 years) which leads me to thinking the other two previous were decidual bleeding. I even had a pelvic scan when I would've been 8wks 5days.

I had unprotected frottage as well as protected intercourse using a spermicide condom (12/29) and anal sex (1/4). I had seemingly normal periods in January and February. Negative hpt.

I really need to figure out if I am because otherwise I would need to get an abortion. I would be 12 weeks on this Wednesday if I was. Abortion is prohibited in my country so I would need to figure out real soon because I would need to arrange travel etc.

I am not superstitious but my nephew told me I was going to be a mommy soon and that freaked me out.

I've never had this in all the years I have been sexually active I have never been like this so I don't understand it and this there must be cause to worry.

Ofcourse I daily google everything and I know you repeatedly tell people not to but I still do. I hear about the negative hpts, decidual bleeding, fertile mucus, external pelvic scans missing babies (sac etc.)

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Heather
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Okay.

So, one thing I hear is you taking responsibility for freaking yourself out here with Dr. Google, the world's worst doctor of ever. That's great -- and highly refreshing -- because that can help you stop doing that thing that is freaking you out, and give yourself more time and energy for things that actually calm you down.

You have had all the tests and exams to make clear you are not pregnant. You're clearly not. No matter what your nephew, however great a psychic he feels he may be, has to say about it.

So, besides this simply being the first time -- of likely more times in your reproductive lifetime -- a period has been late or skipped, why do YOU think you are having such a hard time letting go of this fear? And what do you feel like you'd need to let it go? Pregnancy clearly isn't the cause of all this here, so what do you think it is?

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Teendrama
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I am ridiculous period came heavy enough so fears temporarily assuaged because it ought to be heavy enough for the uterine lining to have been expelled rather than a 'decidual bleeding' flavour to it. I guess the sustained stress took a sufficient amount of time to impact on time of ovulation.

It's so ironic that I have been coolly sexually active since 15 yet it is in my early 20s with a degree, a job, (and studying postgrad) that it is actually stressing me. Clearly the anxiety is misplaced. I don't know what will calm me. I need to restart a journal and stay off the copious websites and stop buying and tweaking hpts to freak out at even the hint of a line (note I now know how much hcg most brands detect, I can tell you that clear blue digital always have 3 lines, First Response Early Result has a grey line before urine has even touched it).

My 3 year old nephew is clearly an expert and fortune teller. Though I ought not to be so superstitious.

Thanks again. Is there anyway to donate to scarleteen for the upkeep of the messaging boards or whatever?

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Heather
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You know, there is no time of life when it makes more or less sense for sex, or some part of it, to be stressful. Because you weren't before but are now doesn't mean that's not right: you are not the same person in the same life place or circumstances. Sex can be or feel stressful at any time of life, and not stressful at any time, too.

You're welcome, and we always appreciate support if and when someone can give it. If you do right here, you can pitch in if you like: https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/1433116

Thanks! [Smile]

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Teendrama
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Yay! I donated that day:) I have decided to make better choices and not stress about it. I think I have generalised anxiety. I am still debating over another ultrasound because I know it'll definitely be clear and assuage even small doubts.

The one consolation is I can watch ANY scary movies in the dark by myself now because a preg scare is scarier than anything else to me. [Razz]

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Heather
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Thanks so much! [Smile]

Do you know how to take next steps for getting help with your possible anxiety?

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