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h.kirk100
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My boyfriend and I were fooling around a couple days ago. We didnt have pants on, he had underwear on and I had a thong on. I have read a lot of the information on here about dry humping. My question is, because I had a thong on, does pregnancy pose a risk? PLEASE HELP!
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Heather
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We have already answered this for you the last time you posted about an identical situation, and had a conversation with you about it of depth.

The answers the last time are going to be the same for this time.

Since you clearly do not feel comfortable with these kinds of activities, can I ask why you keep choosing to engage in them?

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h.kirk100
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Sorry Heather, I know the situations sound similar. It was just in this case neither of us had pants on. We just had underwear and mine were a thong. I think on the article I read it said something that a thong could pose a risk. Please tell me what you think.
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Heather
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Underwear are clothing: he had some on, you had some on. Even if your piece was not actually covering your genitals, his was.

Our pieces make very clear clothing presents a barrier to there being a pregnancy risk.

But if you are not comfortable doing these things, then it's on you to choose not to do them until you do. If this is now the second time you have done something like this and freaked and worried and come here because of how you feel, you can see the pattern here. Clearly, you don't feel okay about this, so the answer isn't to keep doing it, the answer is to step back from it and first figure out what you need to BE okay with them, and feel just fine after, okay?

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h.kirk100
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Hey Heather,
I have another question.. Sorry to keep bugging you. Since my period is normally 28 days apart. But last month it was a few days late...Should it be 28 days from then until my next one? Or will it be longer. Because 28 days would be today and I havent started. My boyfriend tells me not to worry at all but because he only had underwear on and my thong was very thin I freak myself out. I am sorry I keep asking for reassurance but if you could give me some I would really appreciate it. Thanks!

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Heather
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I can't possibly predict when your period will arrive. There's just no way I can know something like that.

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h.kirk100
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Im sorry...I guess my question is, if my period is late or something. Is there any reason I need to worry about pregnancy. I have such anxiety and really just want to be 100% sure
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Molias
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Your period being late doesn't change any of what's already been said about pregnancy risks. This article has some info on late periods, although it doesn't even sound like yours is late yet: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?
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h.kirk100
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So my risk is 0% or is there even a slight possibility? Like should I take a test?
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We have already gone over your risk with you.

If you feel that taking a test will help calm you down, then by all means that is something you can do. But, as Heather has mentioned, it might be best to take some time and figure out what level of sexual activity you are OK with that won't cause you repeated anxiety.

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h.kirk100
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So even if my period is late, I still have no reason to worry about pregnancy?
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We've been really clear about the answer to that, in this thread and previously with you.

Us giving you that answer is obviously not helping you either to accept the answer or to feel less worried, so clearly, it's time to try something different. Do you have any sense of why you're struggling to accept the answer or why you keep worrying? If that's something you want to think about but you're not sure where to start, You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are? talks about a number of things that can be going on for people.

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