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Teendrama
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I have done 9 pregnancy tests - all negative - they are a mixture of brands and tested upto 36 days after intercourse 99% accurate . I have checked cervix position almost daily. I even got an ultrasound 37 days after risk (8 weeks 5 days after December period) and had endometrial lining 6mm which seems consistent with CD9 (and has about 5% chance of implantation)

- the two incidents - genital contact (unprotected), protected intercourse (condom) (28/12 or 29/12), unprotected anal (4/1 or 5/1) - so the latter could be discounted unless I have luteal 4-5 days.

Had what I thought were periods in Jan and Feb although both preceded with brown discharge.

I know ovulation calculators are highly inaccurate but all give the date as being at least 2 days outside fertile time. On 27 cycles.

Why am I so fearful? I know it was a pelvic scan but the sonographer said there was nothing there. Why can't I let go? Is there even a 1% chance of pregnancy?

So I get counselling? I read ALL the articles relevant such as self-care and pregnancy scared.

I feel scarred by experience and have distanced myself from the guy.

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Hi, Teendrama.

I'm glad you've been able to distance yourself from someone who coerced you. Is he still in your life in some way?

At this point, it's very, very clear that the worry you have about possible pregnancy isn't based in reality. Any time we have ongoing worry like that, it's best to try to address it and do something about it. I know you said you've read a lot - that's great. Have you read You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are? That piece offers suggestions about where worries like this might be coming from, and can be a good way of identifying possible next steps.

Mental healthcare is usually appropriate for ongoing worry, because it's a mental health issue. So, we would suggest seeking mental healthcare. Being coerced into sex is also a kind of assault. Do you feel like getting support specifically about that would help you? If you do, then services for people who've been sexually assaulted will be available to you; they most often come under the umbrella of Rape Crisis services.

Do you know how to access Rape Crisis and/or mental health services in your area? We're happy to help you with that, if you'd like.

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Teendrama
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I broke up with him and need time not 'talking' to any boys.
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Sam W
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It sounds like you have a good sense of what needed to be done in terms of your relationship with this guy.

I just want to reiterate what Redskies said about seeking out mental healthcare of some kind. Do you have access to those resources?

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Teendrama
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I think since I have time off from school this week I am to visit a place or two and get help. Thanks
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