OK so my life pretty much sucked, I was stuck in an awful relationship and I couldn't get out of it do to threats and things like that from the guy. It'd been 20 months when I finally did what I'd been longing to do for forever. The last months of my relationship with that guy were total misery Guess who helped me through it? His best friend! I know, I know totally obvious and guessable that I fell in love with the best friend It wasn't like I was doing that to be a bitch. You don't choose love, it just happens. So I'd known him since middle school. He'd actually admitted that he liked me back then and we were really close! Nothing ever came of it so eventually I settled for less. Not only was this guy less, it was a bad relationship and he was overly disrespectful (thats the nice way to put it) and he mostly just kept me around so he could use me for sex. All this was happening and I wanted out. I was to scared and I didn't think I could do anything about my situation so I lived everyday of my life as a depressed zombie. Eventually, I reconnected with the best friend. The guy who admitted (back in middle school) that he liked me. We IMd and texted all the time. My spirits were back up up and it wouldn't have happened without him. I'm not the type that'd cheat. Though everyone thinks I did... the most that ever happened is that he might've complimented me a couple times. like 2 or 3. And he even asked me on a date! That was the turning point for me. I realized how much I wanted that date and the freedom to do what I want and be happy. A date would really be nice, I hadn't been on a date in so long, that's how it is when you're used. Your bf only cares about seeing you if you're alone in his house without any clothes on. Ugh. The night after this nice guy who I was close to and was starting to fall for ASKED ME ON A DATE (aaaaah OMG right??) well the night after that we stayed awake until 3:30 in the morning just talking because neither of us wanted to stop talking to the other. The next day in school we shared secret smiles in the hall and secret jokes in our one and only shared class. Neither of us were even sleepy despite the fact that we only got one hour of sleep. Actually that had been my best day in so so long. Of course the bf noticed. He got in my face, yelling asking why I was "overly happy" and "in an unusual mood" My best friend let it slip that I was up past 3 and he made a scene, demanding to know "what other guy was in my house" That was false and embarassing. It only made me realize MORE what I needed to do. I mean when he got that mad and angry I was seriously scared I thought he was going to kill me or something The next day I broke up with him Two days later I went on a date with his (now ex) best friend three days later we were officially a couple. I know I could've waited a little longer and maybe I should've I didn't really think it through because I knew that I couldn't. It'd already been a long time coming anyways Way to long! Apparently, this makes me a slut and a whore and even a cheater this just disappoints me I've never cared what people think at all but I'm justs not that kind of girl! Though I am happy now, I am very happy and that's what matters. That's why I posted this on the yay folder ish thing. So YAY! Also, girls just a side note... if you're ever in a bad relationship or a bad situation just get out of it ASAP because the longer you wait, the worse it'll get. You CAN do it!!!
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I was in a similar situation once. Threats can be scary, and guilt can be overwhelming even though you did nothing wrong. A big KUDOS to you for being smart and getting out. I waited too long but I've learned a lot from the experience and have a great relationship now.
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