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Heather
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You might have heard someone describe you or someone else as "fishing for a compliment" at some point.

The thing is, sometimes we want and need validation or recognition, and there isn't anything wrong with that.

So, do you want a compliment? Ask for one, and someone else here can deliver it to you gladly. [Smile]

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I would like one please. [Smile]

While I'm here, Heather, you're a really wonderful person who's inspired me for years now to be more proactive about making sure people feel valued, and able to enjoy their sexuality, and able to get informed, and calling out hurtful or unhelpful comments people make, identifying what in my world I want to change and how I can do it. That's not to mention you being my champ for so long and helping me to develop my own agency for myself and my sexuality. Yay, thank you! (:

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Heather
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Aw, bless!

And happy to give one! What I think is really cool about you, Joseph, is that having observed you (that sounds so clinical, but I don't mean it that way) move through being a younger teen to an adult during your time here, you seem to have done this really cool thing where you've expanded who you are, and outgrown some things that clearly weren't serving you, while retaining the spirit of who you were in all the best ways. I've always appreciated your openness and your candor, your willingness to try and look at things beyond your own lens (while at the same time standing up for your own ideas), and what's very clearly big-time good-heartedness.

I also really admire how compassionate you are with others, and how much of yourself you obviously put into your interactions with other people.

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Um, can I have a compliment please (and I'll also have the cheesy chips and the raspberries and strawberries with cream).

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Heather
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You so can!

I LOVE your creativity, Jill. It's practically in every post of yours. I also admire how deeply you obviously think about things and the way that you stand up for what you believe in.

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Could I have a compliment, pls?

(Also, Heather, thank you for engaging with my comments on your Slutwalk article (I forgot to log in. Derp.))

[ 08-12-2011, 03:50 PM: Message edited by: treetops ]

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Heather
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treetops, you're a badass! And I mean that in the best way possible. I love your passionate politics.

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I'll take one, [Smile] . In a community like this, you learn a lot about people who you don't even have a face to put to, and it's always cool to see what someone notices about you!

And while I'm here, I'll join the bandwagon and leave one for you, Heather. Well, not so much of a compliment as a rather flattering fact.

Any time I see a news article or a news clip that mentions you or Scarleteen (I recently remember seeing one from a Chicago paper that you posted on here, which was the coolest, since I think Chicago is the most awesome city EVER), I get this feeling of pride that says "Yeah, that's right, I know her.". It makes me feel really cool to know that I've had so much firsthand contact with "the expert".

[ 08-12-2011, 10:58 PM: Message edited by: Atonement ]

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I'll take one as well, please [Smile]
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Hi polyprotic! I haven't known you that long, so I took some time to go back and read through your old posts. [Smile]

It's clear to me that you're an awesome communicator, someone who really takes how other people are feeling into account at the same time as being awesome for making big efforts to look after your own needs. You take a lot of time to help other people out on here in a super empathetic way and you clearly have an all-around reserve of awesomeness you share with people, too. [Smile]

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Heather
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Atonement: you've always struck me as such an incredibly thoughtful person, who really digs deep in your thoughts and feelings, even when the surface of things would be much more comfortable.

You also are clearly very, very caring about others. I also have seen you take a couple of risks in your life where you weren't so sure, but felt you needed to take that journey, an adventuring spirit I think is admirable.

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Hmm hope everyone isn't limited to one compliment [Wink]

Jill:
I like how you challenge stereotypes about Aspergers syndrome and about being queer and make me think. You're not scared to be different. You're kind, strong and not afraid to talk about social justice and human rights. You inspire me [Smile] .

Me too?

[ 08-17-2011, 08:23 AM: Message edited by: eryn_smiles ]

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Eryn, I admire how you're living your life as a queer asian woman with so much bravery and trying to change people's lives and challenge their prejudices to make a better world, and thank you for checking up on me when I've been at my lowest, it means so much and shows how caring you are, you're very empathetic and I can see how much you care about your family. Also, that was a very good compliment [Smile]

[ 08-17-2011, 03:06 PM: Message edited by: Jill2000Plus ]

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I feel sort of silly saying this, but...could I have a compliment?
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I've only been here for a day and I've only posted a few times but could I get a compliment iou for when you know me better?

[ 08-20-2011, 02:25 PM: Message edited by: ananab ]

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I'll give you one right now, just from reading your last post ---

ananab, you seem like a really caring and empathetic person. You care a lot about your friend who is having issues and you even asked us how you can help. Caring about people, feeling empathy and wanting to help people out when they're in tough situations are pretty awesome qualities to have in our world - so great job and big hugs. :-)

And Kawani3792, I've noticed you helping out fellow users on the boards and that's SO GREAT. You give awesome insights and even go so far as to dig up links and such for them to look at. You have such a wonderful balance of asking questions, helping others and also contributing to our little community here - you're like a model Scarleteen-er.. we should really give you a badge. :-)

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I would love a compliment!
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I think this thread is an awesome idea!

I'd like a compliment please.

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I feel silly asking because oftentimes, the only way I can get compliments is by saying something mean about myself so someone could tell me the opposite. I could use a bash-free-compliment. [Smile]
As I need to dart off now I think I'll return later to give my compliments to others.

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haleylynn: One comment that stuck out from you was where you posted "I look forward to the rest of my life just the way I am." You have something so many people strive for in life - a happiness and contentment to be who you are. you're a strong and positive individual who is not afraid to be yourself - and that's amazing!

moonlight bouncing off water: I see you as a genuinely caring and helpful person. I see from this thread here that you help care for your other you know when they need you, and from your time posting here that you do the same with people you don't know - showing a compassion for humanity [Smile]

Cian: You have what I've always called the "breath of fresh air" quality about you. You've gone through some rough patches, and find a way when things turn out okay through a lot of work and time to sit back with a "Yep... it's okay." It reminds some of us that are run-run-run to stop and enjoy the little moments where something is just right or too perfect, even if it means just stopping and literally smelling a flower once in a while.

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This thread is so fantastic! And, uh, I could use a compliment. (Are volunteers allowed to ask?)

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....i feel silly asking, but could i have a compliment? not sure if anyone even has read my posts
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Karyn:
From seeing you on the boards as a volunteer, I think you are very caring and patient in how you interact with people. It's lovely how you share parts of your experience that people can relate to, so they don't feel alone. As well, I think (?) you do sex education as your day-job which is something I really admire. Most of us wouldn't have the urge or ability/talent to do this well, although it is such important work which changes peoples' lives.

georgiexx:
You sound like a sensitive and sweet person who really cares about your Mum. But you are also very strong and doing a great job of dealing positively with more than your fair share of recent tough challenges. Do hang in there and take care of yourself, ok? [Smile]

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To EVERYONE on Scarleteen: You are all awesome! The community here is fantastic, I feel comfortable sharing some of my most intimate thoughts with a group of people I've never met in person. I know that no one is going to make fun or be rude (or on the off chance that they do, they're going to receive allot of flak for it) and that my questions are going to be answered with accuracy and plenty of information.

You all rock!

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You know, I think I could use a compliment. =)
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Skies: Having seen you around the boards, I can tell you're a very strong willed person. You continue to work through problems and hardships with a high head and I've seen you helping others around the site find information - so obviously thoughtful and caring about others. [Smile]

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I don't need a compliment, but I wouldn't mind one. <grin>
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i feel extremely silly to be asking for a compliment, but i guess i could really use one today.

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loneranger: that's easy! (And sorry for the wait!) You're clearly more fearless than you think you are. You're also obviously pretty amazing at following your heart and being true to it, even when you feel scared. I thin that's a really amazing quality.

WesLuck: it's been great having you here at the boards! I really value how supportive you are of people and how thoughtful you are. I also really like the way you move discussions forward and are clearly a big thinker. Your sense of fairness -- your expectations of people to be their best in that respect -- also is really awesome.

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Since this is my first post here apart from my own queries, i would like, instead of ask, to GIVE a huge combined compliment to all the Scarleteen volunteers for being so amazing and patient and always there [Smile]

And a specific compliment to Heather for all the good work over the years. I admire you so much! [Smile]

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ditto Shahla!
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Can't go past that! I agree.

Oh, and Merry Christmas to all (just under 20 minutes to go here), and happy Boxing Day (26 December in Australia) for those who have already ticked past midnight. [Smile]

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thanku Heather... [Smile] that was a wonderful christmas gift for me [Smile]

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hi... if anyone remembers me, I'd like to do some fishing, too. If not, there's no problem, I have changed my ID no that a long time ago. Also, checking what I have written under this name, I have re-read a post where I have tried to explain what an other user might have been thinking using mainstream concepts about attractions and gender, and ended up hurting others because I didn't clarify that it was meant to be just a translaton, so sorry again.
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naplement; I remember you! I wouldn't worry about that other thread; it's so easy to be misunderstood on the internet - it happens to all of us.

I really think you're a person that will do and already does a huge amount of good in the world. You're extremely aware of the gender role culture puts on us around sex, and you raise awareness to get those harmful ideas broken down. Keep fighting the good fight!

You also go out of your way to support posters here and are often standing up for those in tough spot. You're a fantastic person to have on one's side!

You write beautifully to people in your support even though English isn't your first language. It's lovely to have you round here!

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