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Shyster
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So I don't think anyone would deny the ridiculous amount of slang the English language has. What I've found is when saying or asking something explicitly the "proper" way, it produces a more impactful feeling in my mind...

So for instance if it's late and things get going, it means more, or is more of a turn on or something if my girlfriend says "are you ready to *have sex with me*"

One quick thing about that line, is I put asterisks around what makes me feel whatever way this is I'm asking about. However it is not limited to sex and if you ask me anything in that sort of way it creates a similar effect.

I asked her about this, but I worded it crappily cause I've thought about it more since then. She seemed to understand what I meant, but I feel like I'M missing something about WHY.

I like to rationalize everything so I was wondering if someone could help me understand maybe why this happens or what it means if anything. I was hoping for something other than "different people are different" lol...

Thanks!

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Sam W
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Hi Shyster,

So, to clarify a bit, are you wondering why phrasing things in a certain way has a certain effect on you? Because, if that's the case, then we may be in, at least partially, different people are different territory. But, I will say that certain ways of speaking can feel more or less impactful (or formal) depending on the cultural context we come from.

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Shyster
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Yes sorry I'm long winded. That is what I was wondering...I just thought there might be some more profound reason for it haha
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OhImpecuniousOne
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I think there's also an element of novelty there, in some way - in that we hear the slang all the time, but actually hearing someone be direct and open enough to just say "Do you want to have sex with me?" is something that probably doesn't happen as often, and is a bit socially daring, both of which can be quite exciting.
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