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Jacob at Scarleteen
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So in my current relationship me and my partner talk to each-other in an almost made-up language of baby-speak + bits of czech + faux german (i.e. jacob = schplacob)... it's extremely cute and totally embarrassing when other people notice.

I know it's something I see parodied in a really negative way on tv as an 'annoyingly happy couple' trope... and also something I've heard people say is annoying when they hear people doing it. I think one really interesting point is that some people think that it is to do with infantalising and belittling people. I can maybe see part of that.

I just think that maybe we're way more physically intimate with our friends when we're small children than when grown up and so it makes a lot of sense that the language that fits being intimate as adults would be similar to how kids speak.

What do people think? Is it something that happens in your relationships?

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Sam W
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The fiance and I don't really do baby talk, but we definitely have silly voices/references that we say to each other. We tend to not do them is someone specifically says they find it annoying, but otherwise we don't worry about it much.
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I'm pretty uncomfortable with pet names from most people, although I've had a few people use them for me in a way that felt ok. They've usually been close friends and not romantic partners, though.

My partner & are much more in the "silly voices and in-jokes" camp than pet names or baby-talk, but I guess the line between the two can be a little blurry! Certainly most of that language that we use is very silly, and I'm happy with it being ridiculous.
We save most of our baby-talk for the cats. =)

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Jacob at Scarleteen
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Cool!

I think we'd like to be cats, lounging around eating and grooming, so that makes sense!

I suppose what we do is more just behaving in a playful 'childish' way so the silly voices and in-jokes feature in a big way.

What do you guys think you get from silly voices etc? Is it just that it's fun, or do you think you get special relationship magic from it?

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