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Melli*
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Like the title says, my boyfriend stinks. However, I personally cannot smell what others say they're smelling when he is around. Everybody in my house keeps asking me if my boyfriend takes showers, if he washes himself more than once a week (I find it rude how they speak) and that he smells worse than a wet dog.

Problem is: I cannot smell this wet dog scent.
He attracts me, actually. I've never been able to smell a man like this before - It's as if my nose has lead me into this relationship (as funny as this sounds). I love his natural scent; it's so much better than any cologne and I find that, although we barely see each other, I continue to be drawn into his arms because of the strong whiff of his odor (not BO). I feel as though his scent is mine, that it belongs to me.

Why do other people say my boyfriend stinks, when I think his scent is great?

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Robin Lee
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Hi Melli,

Different people perceive scents differently. It's much like how different people perceive tastes and textures differently. Some peple love the taste of blue cheese, while other people hate it. Some people love the taste or smell of cilantro, while other people think it smells like someone's stinky feet after they've run a marathon. I personally love the texture of velvet while touching velvet, if I remember correctly, gives my mother the willies.

In other words, not all people perceive sensory information the same way.


When it comes to how humans smell to other humans, there's a whole lot of body chemistry involved.

So, for you, you're really attracted by your boyfriend's smell, and you find him attractive.

I'm not sure, but I think a feedback loop might be at play in the way people find other people's scents attracted. That is, they smell good to you, therefore you're attracted; you're attracted, therefore the smell is attractive to you. Understand, that's just a guess on my part.

These things are often studied scientifically, so you could, if you're interested, do some research to see if there are valid scientific studies about scent and attraction.

IN terms of what the people in your house are saying to you, I can very much understand how that would bother you. You do have the right, should you choose, to ask them to stop making comments to you. You're his girlfriend, not his keeper, and if they have a concern or problem with him, they need to be talking to him about it, not you.


They may very well choose not to do this, as it's considered socially awkward to talk to someone about their hygiene. This still means though that you get to expect that they'll honour your request not to discuss this with you.

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