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here is this guy who ive known for 5 years and have always liked. He moved and for 3 years weve been talking pretty much everyday. I tell him EVERYTHING and vise versa. Throughout the three years we spoke about how if we could see each other we would want to sleep with each other. We were always planning to do things like go to colordo and hiking ect.. but it was more of dream to me. i NEVER thought id see him again. Until he moved bk to my home town for good. When i saw him he surprised me at the airport. and on my last night he spent the night. i pretty much gave him blue balls, i said no because i was unsure if it was just about sex.. but what i told him was that i leave the next day and wont be back for a while. He was a little frustrated, which i understand..
but then i realized i really did want it so like an idet i woke him up and told him how id like to spend this night with him.. however, i hadn;t had sex in over a year.. and we had no lube or as much as he tried he couldnt get in me.. i was so tight. I suppose it was embarrassing for him.. i don't know if i ruined my chance..
i wrote him and told him

also just clear things up , after a year of not having sex i should have been prepared with lube. hahha next time, also the reason i said no the first time was because i got nervous and was being cautious and i should have told you that before
but i i did enjoy the fact that i could see you on my last night

yeah lube would have helped haha. Understandable and being cautious is never a bad thing.
and me too

did i ruin my chance.. ? do i use this as a joke with him, cause its a funny story

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It sounds like you already figured out that the best way to go is simply to be honest! And it seems like the guy took responded positively to that, so go you! [Smile]

We can't really tell you what he's thinking, but I am sure that if you let him know you feel a little awkward and don't know where to go from here, the two of you can work it out together.

Also: if you did not use a condom, you two did have a risk for STIs. If you haven't been tested recently, it would be a good idea to get caught up!

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