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Prozac
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So my boyfriend and I are back together AGAIN. After the first time we had sex I had a lot of conflicted feelings and retreated into isolation and that included dumping him. I thought I was doing the right thing because it's what my psychiatrist recommended, but... I don't know.

My boyfriend and I had a loooooong talk about my PTSD and depression and how I have commitment issues on top of it all. My boyfriend expressed some concerns that hurt a little; he was worried he was dating some "crazy chick" and I had to explain to him that mental illness doesn't make me crazy, it makes me sick, and just because your girlfriend has cancer doesn't mean you break up with her -- but in the end I gave him the option.

We both decided that we really, really, really like each other and we want to be together, but to help me we're going to be in a "casual relationship" -- meaning no real expectations like the l-word or long-term goals in terms of our relationship, but we still get the perks of being a couple. I don't know, the "casual relationship" thing is more of a label, nothing's really going to change, but it makes me feel better anyway.

Hopefully things will work out this time; this breakup make up breakup makeup thing can't be good for us.

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Heather
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My best advice with this, all things given, is to just keep being honest about what is going on with the therapist, of your two, who was most concerned about you being in this relationship.

Seriously, that way, you can have someone to help hold you to evaluating all of what's been and kept going on most critically yourself, including helping you perhaps work through some helps you might need in basic relationship skills, like taking real space and time after a breakup.

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Prozac
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He dumped me. Again.

I quit. I seriously quit. I am going to rock the single life for a while. This relationship clearly wasn't meant to be. I get better orgasms from my own hand anyway, and my hand doesn't plan on leaving me for a contrived reason. (Sorry, bitter.)

SO done.

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Heather
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You know, I just put up something new today that might be perfect timing for you: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/getting_through_a_breakup_without_actually_breaking

(Also, if I can offer some unsolicited advice, do yourself a favor and do NOT answer the phone, texts or email from this person for a while, okay? Seriously, this pattern ain't gonna break itself.)

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Prozac
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No worries; I am so done with him. I am going to put on my "Rockin' the Single Life" playlist and listen to empowering single lady music for the rest of the night. Pffft to him.
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