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gabyr
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there is this guy.. and i am very much interested. i could tell he was interested to. At first he gave me an attitude. he was very charming but cocky, he made me think about him. there was this one time where i broke my backpack. He told me that maybe hed lend me an extra one of his, maybe ( hes cocky) i told him id tutor him in return. Turns out that he ran to my friends room to see where i lived and stopped by my dorm to give me the backpack. i wasnt there so he told my roomate to tell me he dropped it off and then came to find me to tell me himself. After that he asked me to tutor him. He got all dressed up and nervous. We would stupid things like before going back to our own dorms (they are across from each other) we would turn to look back at each other to see if the other person is looking, it was far enough away that it wasnt weird. So on valentines day a 2 couples made a reservation togthere and needed ecxtra people to fill it up. Me and my friend and the guy i like were going. Of course my friend canceled last minute so it ended up being us two going along with the 2 couples. it was a bit weird.. there was tension but it was pretty nice. The night resulted to him drinking wine with me and really opening up. He held my hand and wrapped his arms around me. The next morning he texted me and told me he wishes i was here... (i was in ny). so i assumed he was interested. Now last friday we went into town and our two friends ditched us. It was set up and it felt forced..and neither of us were happy..since then he dosn't text me.. i have him in class.. and we are still nice but he dose not ask to hang out. he dose however always say how we should do all these things like go see a movie, go to ny, take a europe trip, but he never proceeds.. should i back off? i am treating him as friend, texting him like a friend. I am not sure if i play hard to get or what the heck is on his mind..i really like him, i am not sure what to do [EMAIL][/EMAIL] [EMAIL][/EMAIL] helpp meee
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Heather
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Hey there, gabyr.

have you asked him about this?

In other words, said something like, "Hey, I'm feeling a little confused about where we're at since last Friday. I'm interested in you, but I can't tell how you're feeling about me lately."

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gabyr
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i met him 3 weeks ago, i don't want to do that if obvious and i am not getting the picture..
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September
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Sometimes we have to ask questions to get straight answers. And especially in dating, where it is easy to feel awkward and unsure, asking questions is the best way to find out what you really want to know and to avoid miscommunications.

If you don't want to come straight out and ask him what's up, you can try inviting him to hang out. If he declines, you can still ask him if anything has changed.

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Johanna
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gabyr
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okay, i wasn't sure if the answer was right in front of me, i don't want to seem desperate
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Heather
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You know, if someone is interested in being with you, then asking if they share that interest? It won't seem desperate: they'll welcome that, because it tells them YOU are interested in them.

if they're not interested in you, then really, there's no way to do anything wrong by asking if they are, nor right: if they're not interested, they're not, you know?

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