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BellaMenina
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So here's the story...
I met this guy online and honestly he just wants to have a one night stand with me but he is BEYOND CUTE!
We're both 20 and right now he left to Texas for a retreat and won't be back until 2 months.
He told me that I was beautiful and wants to hang out with me when he gets back.
How do I ask him out for a date?
Like going out to the movies?
I have only had 1 boyfriend in my life and we dated for 3 years but he dumped me because he was cheating on me and we were young and we never dated before actually becoming boyfriend/girlfriend so I'm practically new at this!
Ugh can someone give me tips on this!
Flirting tips maybe?
Thanks. :]

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Heather
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Well, do I understand you right that he's made clear he isn't interested in dating, but only in a one-night stand?

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BellaMenina
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Well yes but then he told me that he'd like to hang out with me when he gets back.
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Heather
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So, it sounds like maybe this is less about asking him out on a date, and more about finding out if that's what he even wants first, you know?

If he hasn't said he's had a change of heart, personally, I would assume he hasn't, and "hang out" means sex.

But if you know -- as it sounds like you do -- that what you want is dating, not casual sex or a booty call, and you want to find out if he wants what you want, I'd suggest just asking him about that clearly.

As in, "Hey, you said you wanted to hang out when you got back. I'd like to hang out, too, but I'm interested in dating, not a one-night stand or just a hookup. Are you interested in dating me, or are you still feeling like a one-night-stand is all you want right now?"

Or something like that.

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BellaMenina
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Yeah it sounds likes that's the only thing I can do. I'll just be straight about it. Thanks!
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