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I don't know what to do. I've never really liked or enjoyed sex. On a rare occasion ill get into it and we have a lot of fun but that hasn't happened in months.
I'm only 21 and I haven't been abused or molested and my husband has never hurt or harmed me or made me feel insignificant. I feel bad because he constantly wants sex and i just keep pushing him away. It's like a chore and it bores me. It's so hard to even somewhat orgasm (which are not all that great either... Don't know what the big deal is)
When we do have sex, I find myself a passive participant and I just lay there. I feel hardly any pleasure No matter what position we try.
It's not just sex either, I HATE HATE HATE cuddling. I get hot, itchy, antsy and feel claustrophobic. My husband knows i don't like it but he thinks its funny to hold me down and "force" cuddle me anyway....he knows i hate it when he does that but he still does it anyway.

I've never been into masturbating, as I find it weird and uncomfortable (I was raised being told sex was a bad dirty thing)
I'm not on any medications and I'm not depressed. I am breastfeeding a 10 month old but just that wouldn't make me so adverse to sex and touch would it?
We haven't even been married a year and I'm so young (hubby is 25) that it seems i should be always wanting sex...right?

Please help, I'm worried it might start to hurt our marriage!

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Robin Lee
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Hi Goldenblaze and welcome back,

It sounds like you're really upset and discouraged about all of this.

Have you been able to tell your husband how you feel?

You posted about this a few days ago, and in my response to you, I asked a few questions. Can you please take a look at that post? That is probably as good a place as any for us to start with this conversation.


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