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Jaylee
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There's a winter dance at my school on the 15th and me and my boyfriend decided we didn't feel like going because we already went to homecoming. Instead we decided to go on a really nice date. Usually for the winter dance the girls ask the boys. So I thought it would be cute to ask him to go on a date. I have a really good idea on how to ask him. But when we go on the date I know he has a Christmas present for me. I have no clue what to get him. Do you have any ideas? Boys are kinda hard to shop for and I don't wanna ruin the date because he has something for me and I won't for him.
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Robin Lee
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HI Jaylee,

It sounds like you're worried about getting him just the right thing. What about instead thinking about what kinds of things he's interested in, and see if that gives you inspiration for a gift?

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Jaylee
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I've tried doing that. But I'm not really sure what I can do without it being extremely expensive. Do you know in general what guys like?
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There is nothing that we can say "guys" like, since guys aren't a hive-mind [Smile] They all like different things, as they're all unique individuals, like everyone else. So instead of thinking about what "guys" in general might like, how about brainstorming about things you know your boyfriend is into, and coming up with a gift idea relating to that? For example, maybe his favourite band has a new CD out. Or maybe his favourite sports team has a game coming up that you could get tickets for. Maybe he likes playing music or painting -- you could get him art/music supplies.

What do you think? Does that help you start coming up with some more gift ideas?

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Jaylee
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Yeah. Do you think that if I told you things he likes, you'd be able to help?
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Onionpie
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That's kind of outside the scope of what we volunteers/staff cover here -- however, I'm sure your fellow users would have some great input for you!
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Jaylee
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Okay. Thank you(:
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Hi Jaylee!

I definitely agree with what everyone else on this thread has said: a present that's related to something he's interested in would be nice.

I'm not a guy, but I know I would be very touched if someone got me a present relating to something I had mentioned in a conversation with them. For example, if I had talked about a book that I've been really interested in reading but never had the time to actually look into. Or maybe concert tickets to a group that I've been dying to see.

Maybe you could think back on the conversations that you've had together and see if anything that he's mentioned jumps out to you (like his favorite band, sports team, book, etc.)? So, what is he into, if you don't mind me asking? I wouldn't mind helping you brainstorm some ideas. [Smile]

[ 12-08-2012, 09:54 PM: Message edited by: MusicNerd ]

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Also, a gift voucher for something you know he's interested in can be a good idea if you don't want to take a risk of something really specific. So if they do a bit of reading, it could be great to give them a book voucher. Or it could be any voucher that you know they'd be happy to use. [Smile]

Use your intuition, it is rarely (if ever) wrong. [Smile]

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Jaylee
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Thank you guys. This helps a lot. And no I dont mind you asking(: He doesn't really read books. He likes Michigan, the color blue, Greenday, music in general, going to see movies, anything fun, he's really into trying new things when we go do something together, he likes working out. For some reason he likes fuzzy socks? Haha. There's probably more but that's all I can think of right now.
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So I'm seeing a few things here you could do. If there's a movie out that you would be interested in seeing and think that your boyfriend is interested in seeing, you could take him out to that. Or you could get him a Greenday CD if you can find one you know he doesn't have. Or you could get him blue fuzzy socks. Or give him blue fuzzy socks when you tell him that you'll take him out to the movies so it doesn't feel like you're giving him nothing.

I get wanting to give the perfect gift, but it's really one of those things where you'll only know if it was a "perfect" gift once he opens it. I really don't think you'll be able to "ruin" the date by not getting the perfect gift.

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I second the ideas that Moonlight has suggested, and I'd also like to add that posters are also good for people's favorite bands (if you think he'd be into hanging up a poster in his room).

Knowing that you took into account what he's interested in will be something that is really sweet and that he'll probably appreciate. I, too, don't think that you'll mess up your date if you don't get the "perfect" gift. [Smile]

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Jaylee
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That helped so much! Thank you guys. I love the socks idea and the poster was perfect. He keeps telling me he's trying to fill up his walls with things. I think I just found my gift(:
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Glad to hear it, Jaylee! [Smile]

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Awesome! Glad to be able to help! [Smile]

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