Hi! Here again for some wonderfulk advice...
I starting dating this guy that I met at my friends wedding. we are dating, but no title. We hang out just about every weekend, talk daily (at least acknowledg each other) and I even think we act liek a couple, at least when we are alone. THe other day when I saw him I was saying goodbye to him with my friend and I questioned on whether to kiss him bye or not. That got me thinking...since we have been like this for 4 months or so now, do you think that I should ask him is we could ever be something or, or ask him where we stand? I really like him and don't want to scare him away...
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I think this is something that has to be clarified sooner or later, so there is no avoiding it. He seems to like being with you, so I don't see why the prospect of being together in the future should be so scary... In the other hand, if he is seeing this more casual than you, then it would be important for your own heart to get this information as soon as possible, so you could do what is best for you (keeping it going if you can be happy with something partial, or, if you think you can't be happy with being so close but without stability, then you could back off a bit).
Relationships are different and what people think of as normal is diverse too, so you will need to get thing out in the open sooner or later, otherwise there is the risk that you were operating under very different assumptions.
I hope others will give advice for the more concrete part - I don't know how to do it more exactly. I suppose you have read the Be a blabbermouth! article? and the one about relationship models?
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