Hey, my boyfriend & I have been together for 19 months & we've only started having sexual intercourse in the past few months. The problem is he can't get an erection when we're about to have intercourse. He can get & keep an erection during oral & manual sex but intercourse he can't. It's only been for the past month or so, he says it's because he's anxious but I think it's because we had a problem a month & half ago & broke up for a few weeks. Any response would be great thanks .
Posts: 1 | From: Wales | Registered: Aug 2012
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Well, what are you -- or he -- looking for?
It's not at all atypical for people to have times or situations where erection isn't happening. And usually, the more someone stresses about it and tries to make it happen, the more frustrated someone -- or the people around them -- get, the less likely it is to happen.
When someone tells us why they think they're having an issue, my usual rule of thumb is to give their words authority. he says he's feeling anxious, so why not believe that? Have you two talked about what he thinks he needs right now around that?
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