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Morgan Elizabeth
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Okay, so I have four best friends, Chris, Connor, and Kayla. I am quite possibly in love with Chris. I told him back in February that I had feelings for him, after having told the other two that I liked him. All of us are really close, we hang out practically every day. I just recently told Connor that I think I'm in love with Chris.

Chris has never been very open, he keeps things to himself, he and I never hugged, but he's always said I'm on of his closest friends. The past week or so he has become so much different, he actually wants me to hug him, he tickles me every chance he can, and he is just so much more fun than ever before, and Kayla and I are noticing a lot more flirting. But Connor keeps telling me that he things it isn't going to happen, and that I should move on.

I'm totally confused on whether or not I should move on. I have never had such strong feelings for someone, I can see myself having a future with him, I can see myself happy with him. I don't know if I should continue on with my feelings, praying I'll get out of the friendzone and into something more, or if I should just move on. But he is showing so much potential that he's never shown before... I just don't know what to do..

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Morgan Elizabeth
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Plus, I keep on feeling like I'm not good enough for him. I can make him smile, and we can be these amazing people together, but I'm not good enough to be his girlfriend. He always says he can't do a relationship because he 'doesn't want to get close to someone', but I'm one of his closest friends, this just drags me down more.
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Heather
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Well, I think what you said in your last post alone makes clear that even if he WAS interested in a romantic relationship with you, it'd be a pretty unsound choice on your part. Not feeling worthy pretty much dooms things from the start.

So, I'd personally let this go and not pursue something, at least until/unless you find you feel radically different about YOURSELF, and he makes clear he is open to getting close in this way and pursuing a different kind of relationship (and by "clear," I mean in words, not tickles. [Razz] ).

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You are unique, and special and worth caring for. And we learn to care for others by learning to care for ourselves first. If you're not ready, that's fine, but love starts from within. [Smile]
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