I am 28, I have been seein this gyt since Janry. As far as I know he said he is only seeing me. When we started hanging out in Jan he said he wanted to take it slow not rush into a relationship ( a title, bf/gf) because he had just broke up with his gf of one year 3 weeks prior. I completly was on same page as him as I just came out of an 8 y reltionship 6 months before that. But now its 6 months later almost june, and we are still seeing each other/dating and I am wonderiusng if he is just using me? wasting my time? Or if he is in this for right reasons? How d o Ibring this up to him with out pressuring him
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What do you think you'd be potentially pressuring him with?
In other words, these are clearly things on your mind, and things you feel concerned about. While obviously he can't say if he's wasting your time -- that's really for you to figure out -- he could certainly speak to if he's using you, and could tell you what his reasons for dating you are, so that you can figure out if they're reasons that are okay with you.
So, why not talk about them? You seem to want this to be a deeper relationship, and openly communicating about them things that concern us with partners, friends or family are one of the things we do when anyone in our life has a real place in it or we want for them to have one.
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