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I'm a straight girl who is totally okay in her body. My problem though, is that I'm attracted to gay guys. Even when I was little; when I was 4, I was in love with a friend of mine, and apparently he liked me (awwwww lol) but when I found him again on facebook, it listed his "Interested in" as "Men". And while my two gay friends (and my mother, for that matter) thought that was hilarious, I wasn't to happy about it. I've yet to really like a straight guy, and it's scaring me a little. My parents are afraid that I'm getting too involved in the gay community (my best friend is gay) and that if I keep it up, I wont find a straight guy to be with. For all I know, they might be right. I don't want to stop being friends with my best friend, nor do I want to be's not even like I'm liking gay guys on purpose..I don't know they're gay when I first like them. Sometimes I wish I was a gay guy just so I could be with them. I'm so frustrated, I don't know what to do! There's probably nothing I can do, but any thoughts or insights would be greatly appreciated. Thanks [Smile]
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Want to fill me in on what it is you like about them, if that's anything you can put your finger on?

Or, is it maybe instead about just mostly hanging in queer circles and not meeting more guys who aren't gay? (Even if it is, I don't think you need to ditch your friends or the social circle you like best: you just may need to expand that circle some.)

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I'm not sure what is is about gay guys that I like specifically, because I know all gay guys are different, and I have another gay friend that I'm not interested in at all. I think my bad luck with liking guys is that I'm attracted to people who are in musicals; I'm in high school, so I do two every year. And the gay guy I currently like is amazing at acting, and has a beautiful voice (I'm not the only one who thinks so, most everyone he knows does) and he's just very outgoing and has made me more outgoing by taking me places with him. I suppose since I'm not involved in sports or such things, and more involved with theater, (I know this is stereotyping, but it's been happening to me for the past three years) I'm more prone to meeting gay guys. And my straight guy friends, I'm just not interested in. It's a little upsetting because my mother wants me to go out with one friend of mine, but I simply do not like him like that. I feel like I should, but I don't. And I'm not going to fake it.
I guess I'm just lonely at this point. My friend who is gay has recently told me that he think's he's bi (he's been hanging out with his guy friends yeah), and this was right at the time when I finally decided that I do not want to like him anymore. I do not want to thrive on the pain of him not liking me back. It's all just so confusing and a little upsetting.

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