I broke up with my girlfriend a while ago, maybe a couple of months. Well, she broke up with me just as much. Anyway, I find myself a little torn.
She's the exact person I'd want to live with. In that she wants to live exactly how I want to live. I want to live with my partners and have a household. I want to have a serious garden (I do right now). And raise our kids together. But I don't seem to find people who think like that, besides those who are int the whole "commune" thing. This isn't a need, but it's a long ago dream I thought was impossible, and I still want it. And for the time we were together it was working, and it was awesome.
On the other hand, we don't necessarily fit very well with each other. either in terms of talking, when I spend the night with her there's moments of awkward silence a lot. Shorter times are ok. Or with sex, really. And there was some sex stuff that was pretty scary and messed up. I think I know enough now to avoid the messed-up parts. But we make really good friends.
I find myself missing her a little now...
So I only have enough energy right now to A. meet new people or B. Turn this back into a romantic relationship. (if she's interested) I think I know the answer, but I just have to let it sit in my brain for a while...
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I'm sorry that you're missing her right now, but it sounds like you weren't fully compatible with each other in your relationship. Still, it sounds like you learned a lot about yourself and your wants and needs in a relationship. It's great that you could figure out what feels awesome to you and what doesn't in a relationship.
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