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homerunman
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OK, heres the basics.

Me and my gf have been going out for a little while, im not really sure how long. when were together or were out in public were pretty mellow, and when i asked her out she made sure that we took the relationship slow (starting w/ group dates, etc.). the one thing we do do is send each other kinda horny txts, like cybering almost. however when we do this, she keeps trying to get things into BDSM, which freaks the poop out of me. she also talks about it a little when were together, but i try to change the subject.

how can i tell her that what arouses her freaks me out? its not like im scared of like oral or anything, but the whole pain/blood/whipping/vaccums/etc. thing just really creeps me out. i dont want to wreck our relationship, i just want to kind of elimanate this particular.

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CoatRack
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It's totally OK to not be interested in something sexually. However the way to let your partner know that you aren't interested is to talk about it.

Do you maybe want to give this article a read and then come back with any questions you might have about starting that kind of conversation? Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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