Generally I'm a pretty confident in my sexuality and find no reason to be ashamed of sexual feelings. But recently I've only been able to get off on the thought of being approached by a teacher at my school who I've never had as a teacher and never even spoken with. To top it all off he's much older than I am. I've found that I do have a preference for middle aged men when it comes to sexual fantasies but this one is a little too close to reality for me. I certainly don't want to give up masturbation just because I can't kick this one weird fantasy.
Honestly, I'm just looking for suggestions for people who may have had this sort of thing happen and any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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I have a personal rule where I would never let myself fantasize about anyone I know.
For a while every time I would try, someone I did know, and I wasn't even really attracted to them, would basically show up every time I tried to fantasize.
What I did there was, I would stop. Eventually it got to the point where I was so pent up so to speak I could have successfully fantasized about a potted plant. At that time, I was able to construct a more acceptable (to me) fantasy.
It's not your exact situation, but it's one possible solution.
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