I am a few weeks into my first polymorphous relationship and I have a few questions.
1. My mom knows and approves of us. My gf's mom knows that her daughter and i are gfs and sort of accepts that, but she doesn't know about our bf. My bf's parents know nothing..they don't even know we've been having sex for 2 years cause they would never approve. Is this gonna be an issue for us or do y'all think we can work through having to be discreet to 2 sets of the parents?
2. We have talked about where we want this to go and we all want to add another guy to our relationship. Should we wait a while before we do that? For how long? Should we actively go searching or just let it happen naturally if that makes any sense?
3. My gf is self consious among most people. Shes lovin being a part of this, but she's worried that people at school are gonna call her a slut. I tell her that Ive been called a slut for a while and i just say that people who say that are jealous of my sexual confidence. (that was my mom's suggestion as to how to handle it btw..shes awesome). What can i tell my gf to help ease her mind
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I'm not sure what you mean by polymorphous, but I think you might be talking about polyamory.
If so, you might want to check out http://www.lovemore.com/. When I wanted to learn about that topic, I found it pretty helpful.
I don't have any direct personal experience, so I can't help you with your specific questions, except to say that with regard to point 2, nobody can really tell you what you "should" do except the three of you (and anybody else you add to the relationship).
Regarding point 3, why is she worried? I really like something I came across a while ago-- "what other people think of me is none of my business." "Slut" is such a meaningless term anyway, it'd be like worrying that someone was going to call you a "snorgblort." What your girlfriend does in her private life is none of their business, so any comments they have about it are just their own prejudices and sexual mores, not about her or anything real or objective.
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