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edg3
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Let me start off by saying I love my girlfriend to death. We've been dating for a year and four months. I'm 16 and she's 15, in the same grade. Since lastyear she's had problems with her grades. At the start of this school year her parents said she has to get all b's and a's or we can't be together. She Nd her parents are Indian so they come off as a lot stricter than American parents. Well, about a mont ago she was grounded for grades. We could still talk and after a month everything went back to normal. However, just last night we noticed her grades. Apperantely her mom noticed before and made a counceling appointment. She always does her home work but she fails her tests. She's failing because her parents forced her into classes above her comfort level. She is now not allowed to talk or see me ever they said. She texted me about 2 and a half hours ago and that's the last I've heard. What do I do? They may pull her out of school and home school her. She's the love of my life and means everything to me.
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Heather
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I'm sorry you're both going through this.

Unfortunately, right now, it doesn't sound like there is likely anything you CAN do.

Do you see her in school? If so, one thing I'd suggest to support her is for her to go and see the school counselor. Your relationships aside for now, if she's being pushed into classes above the level she can handle and thus, failing, that's a terrible situation for her, and one which a school counselor will want to rectify: no teacher or administrator wants to see a student fail.

That counselor is also someone she can talk to about the whole of this situation.

Are your parents supportive of the relationship? have they ever met her parents?

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My parents both love her. They know her parents but they too think that some of what they do is over the top. I'm going crazy not being able to talk to her, normally I talk to her all the time. I can't get this of my mind
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Heather
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Is it possible your parents might be willing to call or see her parents and talk with them?

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I'm not sure, i think my mom will be against it since it all just happened.
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Heather
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Well, how about you start by talking with them about it to see?

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I'm afraid if i contact her parents it will just make everything worse. I really have no clue what to do at all.
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Heather
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I didn't suggest you contacted her parents: I suggested you talk first to YOUR parents.

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Oh, sorry, I talked to my mom and she said that there's nothing i can do, and that she thinks they'll let her talk to me eventually because they did last time. That's pretty much all she said to me.
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Might your Mom and/or Dad be willing to have a dinner with them about all of this?

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They probably will be willing to do that
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